Is it just me or...........

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Is it just me or...........
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Wed, 09-15-2010 - 3:22pm

what.....



I am curious is it just me or does anyone else get tired of the planned BDing?



It takes all the fun out of it and it's like OK lets go. What about your husbands? Are they all about it or have performance anxiety? Just curious.





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Edited 9/15/2010 3:23 pm ET by newife66

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Fri, 09-17-2010 - 6:44pm

No, no, totally not just you! Appointment BD-ing sucks. We would do in the two days leading up to O and O day. By day three it was pretty miserable -- DH would take FOREVER and it got physically uncomfortable for me. And when we tried to do it four nights in a row? Ow ow ow.

Something that helped: reading aloud from a dirty book beforehand. Hey, whatever works. Hang in there!




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Sat, 09-18-2010 - 8:27am
I'm glad I'm not the only one who wants to just roll their eyes by day 3, LOL!




 


 


Susan V

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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 12:44am
I agree, you are definitely not alone! I don't know of a single couple who have gone through any amount of dedicated TTC without significant strain on the relationship, especially in the area of BDing. This is nothing new for us, and maybe that is why I have been just a little more flexible with this than in years past. Years ago, when it came time for things to happen, the first day was great, the second okay, but by the third day we would both just lie there and talk about what we needed to do that night, and how we really should get to it, and neither of us start a thing! Lol! We did eventually get going, but usually only after laughing about how ridiculous it all was and how much we disliked performing on command! Humour is really the only way to go with this, totally diffuses the intensity and allows you both to find some fun again. At least that is what we have found, so just my opinion!

Michelle



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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 12:01pm

and it ruins "fun sex" too!!!

About me: A pixie in the city, 41, TTC#1 since May 2010, married 18 years.


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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 12:13pm

My husband and I always made sure that that wouldn't overtake our lives. Most of the time he never knew when my fertile days were so he was always in the dark about it. And on days when I knew it was time, it just eased into that moment naturally. It was always a habit of ours where we would go to bed at the same time and re-cap our day and have a laugh and usually that lead to the moment...and also if he or I really didn't feel like it, we didn't push the issue.

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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 3:06pm
Thanks ladies for your thoughts and ideas! I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one thinking ohhhhhhhh goshhhh by the third time!!! So thanks for your input.

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Mon, 09-20-2010 - 5:04pm

Well good grief, Terri and I must be the only 2 who have DH's that fall asleep in their chairs.

 


 


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