It's so nice to see post here.

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Registered: 05-28-2003
It's so nice to see post here.
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Mon, 03-01-2004 - 10:58am

I'm happy to see this board picking up.

Cathie

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Registered: 03-01-2004
Mon, 03-01-2004 - 10:19pm
Hi,

This is the first time I am posting here or anywhere for that matter. I am 41 years old. My dh and I have a 5 year old little girl and 2 baby angels in heaven - one is our 15 month son who passed away June 2002 after a long and complicated illness (I'd rather not elaborate here because it is still too painful). It was a tragic and terrific loss to our family. My dh and I have have just recently made the decision to ttc one last time after many months of discussions whether or not to have another child. I also had an early loss m/c prior to our daughter's birth. Even though I had really have no problem getting preg at ages 36 and 38, I now feel that my age is now a factor. I am in such a twit. I am an avid reader and researcher - so much so that I can hardly focus on anything but trying to get preg - the risks etc., etc. I lost a substantial amount of weight when my son was ill due to high level of stress. I lived in the hospital with him for 10 months. I never left his side. After he passed, I gained about 50 pounds. Now with my age coupled with my new "weight" I am feel disillusioned about getting preg given my research. Maybe tmi and research has put me into this frame of mind. Notwithstanding my whining (for which I apologize for now) I am hopeful we will have one more baby who is healthy. I've bought two ovulation predictor kits (used over the past two cycles) and I just can't seem to get the timing right without running out of test sticks. What is up with that? I thought I had my cycle timing to test just right, but my cycles seem to be wavering. Besides I some times test twice in one day hoping that I will get a positive test later in the day. Crazy or what? I know I'm trying just a little too hard to influence the grand plan. If you, like me, are trying to find the silver lining - remain up beat and optomistic ttc let me know. I'd be nice to be on this journey with other like minded gentle souls who read this board, but have yet to post.

Hoping to hear from you soon.


Bbzb

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Registered: 03-02-2004
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 1:14am
I'm 40 (going on 41 this summer. I recently lost my first baby after a short pregnancy ending in November. My husband and I are happily trying again. It's nice to see that others our age are also trying. It's encouraging when so many (younger people) seem to give us discouragement.

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Registered: 02-11-2004
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 10:53am
First, my deepest sympathy on your loss. I can't even begin to imagine....

As for the ovulation predictor kits they are very very specific as to when you can test.

I used the test sticks but gave up because there was no way I could hold urine for 2 hrs then use the stick, all while at work! I bought the "computerized" test kit ($150+, plus test sticks cost $50/box but last 3+ months) and it's much easier because it uses first morning urine. You might want to try that - it's expensive but much easier.

I have done a lot of research and found nothing but disappointing info about the age and quality of our eggs when you're over 40. You may not ovulate every month and your periods will start to fluctuate in length. I had a mc at 5 weeks last spring and haven't been the same since. It doesn't appear that I ovulate on a regular basis. (I'm 44 and have been trying for 2 years). You may want to try the basal body temperature method. That used to work for me until I turned 43 then my temps were all over the chart.

Always keep in mind that at our age, it is difficult to conceive and it does take time. It makes the struggle a bit easier to take and keep posting on these boards - talking to others really does help.

good luck.

Lynn

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 3:41pm

Bbzb welcome to the board.

Cathie

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 3:43pm

Hello and it's nice to have you on the board.

Cathie