Listen to your Body

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Registered: 07-02-2009
Listen to your Body
Sat, 11-21-2009 - 11:24am

After 3 months of clomid and 3 months of clomid, injectibles, and IUI, my dh and I are going au natural.

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Sun, 11-22-2009 - 8:50pm


I'm so glad you posted that! =)

I can "ditto" so much of what you wrote. Our short stint (3 cycles) w/ the RE all but killed us - and weren't successful considering all the blood, sweat, and tears that were shed. I hated feeling married to them and not my husband; I was at their beck and call. Yet, after the RE gave us little to no chance of conceiving on our own, we managed to do it au naturale - AND I ovulated from the side w/ the blocked tube. That experience proved to me that the docs aren't always right and sometimes Mother Nature gives us an unexpected surprise!

We're trying again and as much as we would like another, we're not willing to compromise our quality family time and more aggressive treatments would involve that commitment. It's just too stressful for us to do again, especially since we have gotten pregnant on our own twice before (Ryan was a Clomid baby).

I'm definitely listening a little more closely to my body and what's it telling me. My cycles have always been pretty regular and normal, but you just never know what might happen and that changes. In fact, my current cycle threw me a curveball with an early O, 8 DPO spotting, and AF is no where in sight. But, I didn't ignore my fertile signs, even though they were early, so hopefully my attentiveness will pay off w/ a BFP very soon.

Sorry - went on a ramble. ;)

I really hope the massage therapist is able to work out the adhesions and you get your BFP super-quick with a very sticky, healthy baby. =)

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Sun, 11-22-2009 - 9:52pm


Perhaps we can become support for one another!

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Registered: 05-28-2008
Sun, 11-22-2009 - 10:12pm

Trina, thanks so much for the post. My DH and I decided that we would only try naturally. Sometimes I question myself and wonder if I should be seeking other medical methods to help us. But I truly know that I can get pregnant and carry another baby. So we continue to try naturally!!! Thanks for the confirmation to myself that i'm doing what is right for us.



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Mon, 11-23-2009 - 11:16am

Hi I just wanted to chime in and offer my support to you as well. As you will see by my siggie, we did a lot of the same things as you. I eventually said forget it and went on to conceive naturally 2 months after giving up on all the fertility treatments and now have a beautiful 6 month old daughter. I agree the RE's don't know everything and I also ovulated from my left side which had been "inactive" for who knows how long.

Good luck to you and I look forward to seeing your BFP post really soon!!!


Tiffany TTC #1 Together
VR 12/06
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Tue, 11-24-2009 - 10:08am


I totally agree. When I started this whole process, I was 42. Now, I just turned 46, but still have hope of doing this naturally. My DH had 2 VRs...the first one failed. Then, my body started acting up. I had normal cycles up until the decision to try for #3. My OB tested FSH and it was an 11 and she immediately sent me to an RE. What a horrible experience. She pretty much told me my ovaries were older than dirt, but she could help me with all these meds. I was 43. I had DD 9 at 36 and DS6 at 39. Anyway, we only agreed to the inject. to help me O. Pretty much everything else is against our religious beliefs. Well, I had follies at the US then, we started the inject. and they shrunk. They matter-of-factly told me that I would need more drugs and wanted us to spend another 1,000 right there on the spot. We could not continue mentally or financially.

It took another year, but I consulted with a natural path doc who is amazing. If you send me a private message, I will give you her name and number. She runs a bunch of BW and analyzes it for see where YOUR deficiencies are. This is a very personalized approach. This is how I got started with Shaklee. She recommended many products to bring my body back to normal and the majority were Shaklee. I immediately started sleeping through the night. My hair stopped falling out. And, after three months, I noticed the really dark spots on my face (melasma) was almost completely gone. My cluster migraines, which were 1 3-day cluster per week, went down to a 1-day migraine every month or two. My BBT has finally adjusted too now. It was really low, but is now back to what it was when ttc my first two.

It takes time to work with a natural path, because they do not simply put a band aide on a problem. They truly try to solve your specific problem. I am now on bio-identical progesterone cream. I am still not Oing every month, but have so much hope. I am completely natural now and have no doubt it is the way to go. It is in God's hands and I feel He knows what's best for us!

I hope you get PG real soon!




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Registered: 08-26-2009
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 7:37am

Absolutely! Good for you! Go for it!

I'm almost 42 and I just got a BFP last week, two weeks after being lectured by a fertility specialist that my only chances of getting pregnant again would be by IVF, that is IF my ovarian reserves/AMH levels were deemed good enough (DH and I had already had a battery of tests done due to two prior miscarriages, and there's nothing wrong). When we politely pointed out that we have good friends (and family members!) who conceived naturally and easily with healthy pregnancies at ages 42, 43, 44, he told us "Well, people can be pretty cagey about whether they've had fertility treatments." Yeah, like my best friend would have lied to me about it. Jerk.

I think a lot of these doctors are out to make big profits off desperate people; don't get me wrong, they do make miracles happen for a lot of people who truly can't get pregnant on their own, and that truly is fantastic. But for those of us whose only "problem" is simply that we've had a 40th birthday already, it's just not true that we can't do it. (Lena, I am beyond shocked that a dr would tell a patient that her ovaries are "older than dirt"!!! How is that helping, even IF it were true?!)

Also, I've long suspected from reading women's stories on here that pumping your body full of hormones can have the opposite effect and result in messed-up cycles! Sometimes less is more.

Anyway, I guess I kinda went off on a tangent (hey I'm hormonal and moody!) I just wanted to tell you good luck, you can do it, and you will do it! Just have patience and do not believe for a second you are running out of time. Keep the faith!

All the best (and baby dust) to everyone!


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Registered: 05-31-2004
Thu, 11-26-2009 - 6:33pm

Good for you Trina, it can be a hard decision. We are also going just natural now, we tried a few months of the clomid, and would have done more but the doctor wanted me to come in again and I just wasn't up to him telling me how difficult it would be. I truly believe that it will happen if it is supposed to, and so I will just wait and see what the future holds for us. In the meantime I am listening to my body as much as possible, although I will confess that it has started to confuse me the last couple of months, what were normal signs for me have now changed! Very confusing! But that is okay, better that I just get a bit confused than told I am crazy by the doctor!

I wish you well and hope that things happen for you soon. And hopefully with letting all the medical stuff go your stress levels can come down some too. (((Hugs)))


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