Miscarrying and wanting to try again

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Miscarrying and wanting to try again
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Tue, 08-17-2004 - 9:22pm
Hello everyone:

What a hard day. I just found out today that my precious baby has not developed normally and I am miscarrying. We were just 6 weeks together, but I miss him so much already. My husband and I were pretty sure I would never be able to conceive, so this took us by storm. We got used to the idea, liked it, and now its over for us. I am 40, have low estradiol, and only one ovary, so the next step for us is some sort of fertility consultation. We are fortunate to have insurance that will cover 80% of the costs. I guess my question is what type of treatments have others in my shoes taken, how successful have they been, and how long do I have to wait to start trying again. The only thing that is soothing me tonight is the possibility of having another chance to have a baby.

I wish all of you the best.

Sophia

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Registered: 11-06-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 8:55am
(pregnancy mentioned)

Hi Sophia,

I am so very sorry about what you are going through. I also had a miscarriage and even though you lost your baby at "only 6 weeks", it is extremely painful and a very sad loss. Please do whatever it takes to take care of yourself during this difficult time.

Looking towards the future (and you will feel better eventually), I think you have a good prognosis. You were able to get pregnant, which is a great piece of information to have. Unfortunately m/c is very common and more so for women in our age group, so hopefully your next pregnancy will be a healthy one. Are they testing the tissue to see what may have caused the m/c? I know sometimes they don't until you have had 2 or 3. Do you already have a RE, b/c it is true it is better to get a bit more aggressive with treatment when you are older and/or have already known IF issues.

40 is definitely NOT too old to conceive again and I am wishing you the best of luck! I am 40 too and I have had almost every IF (infertility) treatment (including 2 cycles of IVF) you can imagine, and I am now pregnant with my second baby. It can happen! Feel free to ask any questions that may come up.

Karen

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 9:16am
Hang in there and try to be positive - I know last year when we had our m/c, the first words out of our mouths were "we're definately trying again".

Take some time for yourself, and keep praying.

And good luck!

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 11:56am

((((Sophia)))) I am sorry this is happening to you and your dh.


You are making the right move going to a specialist and luckly insurance will cover some of the cost.

Cathie

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 5:01pm
Cathie and Friends:

Thank you for your kind words, just knowing that I am not alone in the universe dealing with this is so helpful. I am in Akron Ohio and I have fertility practice that has been recommended to me by my perinatalogist. I am not sure how to check success rates and that sort of thing, so I am going on their recommendation.

I do not think I mentioned in first posting that I am a well controlled type 2 diabetic, I am not sure how this will affect getting pregnant, I know its hard on the developing baby to have a high sugar environment (but I could use a high sugar environment at the moment, I am sure a huge chocolate sunday would make me feel better.)

I have contacted the fertility practice and they want to call back when the miscarriage is complete, I am still having bleeding, and I have been told it will get worse before it gets better.

Did any of you do anything special when you had your miscarriages to memorialize the lost infant? I am thinking of planting a tree in my back yard as a rememberance of this little one. Am I just asking for more heartache?? I would appreciate any input!

Hugs to all of you, I am sending fertile sticky thoughts and baby dust your way!!

Sophia

Please tell me where I get the babydust!! (giggle)

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 5:48pm

Sophia with good monitoring and proper care they will be able to help you with getting pg and also with keeping that diabetes under control when pg.


I did not have too many problems with my m/cs.

Cathie

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 8:44pm
Cathie:

I am so glad I found this group. Well its raining huge big rain drops here tonight, so I went out in the back yard to catch a few, I can only assume its the baby dust!! Thanks for sending it my way...

Sophia

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Registered: 05-28-2003
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 9:43am

Yes I was throwing them your way last night.


Hugs

Cathie

Cathie