Need reliable statistics, please...

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Registered: 09-05-2008
Need reliable statistics, please...
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Sun, 05-09-2010 - 6:35am

or at least something close.

My dh wants to now wait at least 6 months (while we pay down a $7k debt) before even getting his reversal. I am almost 43 years old. We have 5 healthy children, but want at least 1 more. My youngest is 2.5 right now. We have always conceived very easily (within 3 weeks of trying) without any fertility help.

Here are my concerns about "waiting" to get the reversal done (am I right?):

1. It could take up to 1 year for his sper* count to come back up for me to conceive.

2. The chances of me conceiving are getting lower and lower each year.

3. The chances of miscarriage, stillbirth, down's syndrome, etc., are ever increasing.

4. We need to save up about $3k after debt is paid off just to get the reversal, so it could be about a year before we can even get the reversal.

5. Our youngest is 2.5, and I didn't want too many years between our children for fear that the youngest two won't really want to play together. (This might seem silly...)

If "I" tell my dh these things, he will listen...but if he reads them somewhere else by a professional, he will listen more. Make sense? It's just how my man is. :o)

Can someone lead me to some reliable info? I just feel so desperate and in a hurry...should I be? Or, should I just chill out? Sigh...ok, I'll say it...I'm also in a hurry because I want another baby! Lol... :o)

Thank you!

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Registered: 06-24-2009
Sun, 05-09-2010 - 11:22pm
They extracted sperm from him and placed it in her via a tiny catheter.

~ Jodi ~


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Registered: 09-05-2008
Sun, 05-09-2010 - 6:47pm
What is an iui? Thank you. :o)
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Registered: 06-24-2009
Sun, 05-09-2010 - 5:53pm
No statistics here, but a friend of mine just had an iui done without the reversal.

~ Jodi ~


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Registered: 01-27-2009
Sun, 05-09-2010 - 1:21pm
Don't mean to draw conclusions, but sound to me like he's using the 7K as an excuse for not truly wanting another one. I agree with the other responders -- 44 is really different from 43. - martha
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Registered: 05-31-2004
Sun, 05-09-2010 - 12:19pm
I don't know where to send you for stats either, but time is definitely of the essence here. I think that at the moment your chances are very good, but when things start to decline it can all change quite rapidly. Basically, a year now is a very long time to consider putting it off. Things could still happen easily for you, but there is no way to know what will happen during a year. If you are both sure you want another one, then, in my opinion, you should not put it off any longer, get things going as soon as possible. I do know that the statistics start changing drastically as soon as you hit 40. When you do find the stats, don't let them scare you off. In your case I think you would probably have better odds than the average, but again, there is no way to really know that. I certainly hope you can convince him to get it done sooner, it could easily make the difference between having another baby or not. I certainly did not think I would still be here waiting for another either, and I think most of the women here would say that it took them longer than expected, not less.

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Registered: 09-13-2007
Sun, 05-09-2010 - 8:59am
We sure can't provide you w/ any stats on this board since all of our fertility changes at a different rate past 40 so I think I'd schedule an appointment with an RE and have you husband listen to what he has to say about your fertility at this age and with a vasectomy reversal.
 


 


Susan V