NEW HERE, TTC at 45 after m/c

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Registered: 05-23-2003
NEW HERE, TTC at 45 after m/c
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Sun, 06-22-2003 - 6:38pm
Hi there ladies

I am here from the Pregnancy Loss board. I haven gotten my AF after a m/c a month ago, my 2nd in a year. Anyway....I am so excited to see so many women TTC over 40. I have had so many ups and downs (as we all have!). I am just thrilled to see that you all haven't taken the grim news that it is impossible to have a baby over 40 (I know that this isn't true!) with our own eggs.

Can anyone offer any encouragement or support!!!

I will try when I ovulate this month as I am running out time....

Thanks for any/all advice!

Diane

blondiedb@hotmail.com

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Fri, 07-25-2003 - 11:16am
Hi Diane,

Keep trying is all I can say. I am 41 and ttc #1 myself. My sister had her second baby boy last year (2 in two years) and she just turned 43. That's my encouragement. Anything is possible. Chin up and good luck.

Robin

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Sat, 06-28-2003 - 2:15pm
Sorry - bad link - here's the good one.

http://www.network54.com/Hide/Forum/246423

Nuni

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Sat, 06-28-2003 - 10:52am
You go girl! I've been given the "gloom and doom" talk so many times by medical doctors, that my ears just instantly shut off these days as soon as I hear anything about "at your age...."

The other board I was talking about is a ttc-over-40 board that was created as an alternative to this one. Most of the women from this board have moved over there and it's very active. I think the following link will get you there. The only problem is that there are a lot of pop-up ads. Perhaps you have a web browser that can be set to stop pop-ups. In any case, you can check it out at:

http://www.network.com/Hide/Forum/246423

Best wishes!

Nuni

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Tue, 06-24-2003 - 7:01pm
Nuni - Oh my gosh, I am sending loads to good luck and prayers to you in ttc #1. I just visited my OB for my follow-up appointment after my m/c last month and I think that I shocked her when I told her I wanted to keep trying. She was sweet and explained that women over 45 have a 50% chance of m/c. I told her, "well, that is 50% in my favor!" so off we go. I have done IUI's with no PG, only successful on our own. My DH's sperm are like little Navy Seals!

Keep me posted as to your progress, my e-mail is blondiedb@hotmail.com

I am lurking on the over 40 board already, is that what you meant???

Diane

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Tue, 06-24-2003 - 9:18am
Hi Diane -

I'm 45 and ttc#1 after meeting my husband late in life. We had two pregnancies at age 40 and 43 that ended in premature ruptures at 18 wks. Interestingly, they were both natural conceptions after I had tried IUI's and IVF. My RE (St. Barnabas in Livingston, NJ) will not try IVF with me again because of my age and "poor response" (4 eggs retrieved), but she has no problem with me doing injectibles with timed intercourse, which is what I'm trying lately. My insurance covers IVF through age 45, so someone obviously thinks it can happen using IVF at this age. Sometimes I feel I should race to another RE to arrange IVF, but most of the time I figure my eggs are fragile enough that they just don't need any more of the high-tech manipulations. So I'll just keep on trying naturally.

If you check the over-40 website, you'll see a link to another over-40 message board that was created after this one changed format. There are lots of women over there.

Best wishes,

Nuni

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 06-23-2003 - 8:13am
Hi Diane,

I am 41 and new here from the pregnancy loss site. I lost a baby at 9 1/2 weeks gestation in March and am TTC. Last month - no luck. I am hoping this is my month but more importantly, I pray for a healthy pregnancy. I took the m/c really hard. I think it's great that you're trying. Good luck to you and let's hope and pray that this is our month!

If you just want to talk... karen@m2cd.com

Karen

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Sun, 06-22-2003 - 8:23pm
Hi there -

Yes I have had many treatments and 3 IUI's with no resulting PG's. I have only been PG due to natural conceptions which were carefully timed. I have been taking baby aspirin a lot and of course my prenatal vitamins. I have had 2 m/c's. The first last June very early on at five weeks (just a big period) and then one month ago at 9 weeks. Horrible experience!!!!! I haven't gotten test results back, so I don't know what the problem was. I bled for 2 1/2 weeks before finally m/c'ing, but did get two u/s with a beating heart. My RE doesn't recommend ANY treatment at my "age" except donor eggs, so I guess that means I am on my own. Where do you live? What RE do you see? Was you PG the result of fertility treatment???

Thanks for responding. And I have gone over the TTC over 40 website, it is AWESOME!!!

Diane

blondiedb@hotmail.com
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 06-22-2003 - 7:45pm
Well I had a baby at age 46 so hopefully that will give you some encouragement! I also had several early m/c due to chromosome problems. I think your ability to get pregnant really depends on your specific hormone levels. Are you seeing an RE at all or are you TTC naturally? I started TTC at age 44 but after 6 months sought out the help of an RE. My DH and I had about 1.5 years of treatments before I finally got pregnant. I did have many early m/c along the way but I think you just have to maximize your chances of hitting one of those good eggs!! Best of luck and please check out our TTC OVer 40 Website ... at the top of this board! ~ Pat