OK I need some ADVICE please!!!!!!!!!!

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OK I need some ADVICE please!!!!!!!!!!
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Thu, 04-14-2011 - 9:21am

Hello all!
As some of you may know, I suffered a cervical ectopic PG and was out of work for 2months. It's about 1 month since the EP resolved (I bled for 2 months!!!) and I just finished my first real AF...

That said I am still really tired, loagy, depressed and just can't get back to normal life. I went to the Dr for bloodwork and the Dr said that my exhaustion is most likely a combo of 1) bloodloss 2) bedrest and 3) hormonal flucuation.

I am supposed to begin IVF as early as May or June but I just feel wrecked from this EP!! I will be 42 in a couple weeks, clock's a tickin and I need ADVICE FAST on what to do to get my strength and joy back!

I am still depressed, mopey, don't want to excercise, and just want to sit around at night (after sitting at my desk all day). My sex drive took a nose dive too because I feel so fat and ugly and old. It could also be hormonal I have no idea.

I do take iron, folic acid and vitamins, my diet is good (lots of leafy greens,e tc), and I have a weekly counseling session...but I need some tried and true tips on how to get my mental and physical state back to where it was.


-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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Thu, 04-14-2011 - 4:04pm

I'm so sorry you are still feeling down. I don't have any tried and true advice but I do know that it takes time. Your EP was way more intense and severe than all 3 of my m/c's

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Thu, 04-14-2011 - 9:56pm
Vickie, you have been so consistently supportive and helpful to me through this whole ordeal. I appreciate it beyond words. My therapist gave me the exact same advice as you tonight!! So I will try to start out walking outside first and try to go a little longer each week.

I wish I could have a magic injection of joy. My 42nd b'day on april 25 is gonna be rough this year...

-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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Thu, 04-14-2011 - 11:56pm

I'm sorry you are so down on yourself, I wish I could give some wonderful words of wisdom but the best advice I have is to just get outside and walk, even if it is through your yard, stop and pull a few weeds, sweep the walkway, breathe in the fresh air, that will refresh your body and soul and maybe eventually you will start walking around the neighborhood and before you know it you will walk a mile. =)

 
 
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Fri, 04-15-2011 - 5:55pm

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Sat, 04-16-2011 - 9:17am
I started walking in preparation for this IVF and I'm am sooo glad I did!!! I downloaded a playlist of faster songs that get my pace up (134 bpm) and I do 30 mins to 1 hr/ 3-6 miles nearly every day. I take my dog and we both love it. The music really helps me. I have some current music as well as 80s and it's all uplifting or fun: Try these: Jay Sean "Baby are you down, down, down down." or that song, "Sweet Disposition" by Temper Trap. Sometimes the lyrics overwhelm me and I want to cry but then I'll shift to a new song and keep walking on. (which by the way is a great inspiration song for non-walking days...Walk On by U2...I know cancer survivors who use it as their source of strength)

I also get on Pandora once in a while to find more. I'm all ears if anyone has other good recommendations!!! But I swear this walking has been my recipe for success so far. As you might remember I was pretty devestated to have tried IVF and ended up not responding (zero follies). I have 5 follies growing so far and I hope more pop up soon.

I really truly with all my heart hope this helps you too. (((HUGE HUG FOR YOU))) -Pix

About me: A pixie in the city, 41, TTC#1 since May 2010, married 18 years.


Diagnosed with/surgically removed endometrioma Aug 2010. Sept IUI #1=BFN. Nov IUI #2=BFN. Uterine polyp removed Jan. 2011. Jan 2011 IVF cancelled. No response. 2nd

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Mon, 04-18-2011 - 11:51am

Thanks LaRae! I know what you mean about just doing a little at a time. My Dr. said just the same thing--to just try walking a few blocks at a time and each day it can increase a teency bit. I am amazed at how long the fatigue has lasted. I am going for a checkup a week from today to see what's up.

I am beginning to wonder if this is a mental/emotional issue (aka depression!) that is making me tired rather than physcial at this state...it is so har dto say and so complicated. I was on bedrest for a few weeks and bled so much, and maybe my hormones are still out of whack?? I have no idea. It is weird to have been healthy forever and then all of a sudden I am exhausted. I am curious at the followup if the Dr thinks it is mind or body. I knwo that feeling depressed can make one feel physically depleted...but on the other hand, being physically depleted can make one depressed! So I don't know which is the cause and which is the effect at this point!

Thank you for your support!!


-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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Mon, 04-18-2011 - 11:54am

Hey Pix,

Good luck with your IVF. I hope this is it for you! We have been on about the same TTC schedule. I want you to have a BFP ASAP!

Well, I am going to try to get some new music in hopes that will inspire me to move more. I also am ordering new running shoes this week from zappos. Having nice new workout gear always has inspired me to get moving in the past and I hope this time it works too.

I reallllly hope the Dr doesn't suggest anti-depressants for me. I do NOT want them (was on them a few years ago for about a year after my dad died and I got divorced.) They helped me out of a desperate funk but I just want to be ok on my own this time. I am not ALONE in my life anymore like I was then. Now i have my amazing DH and he loves me sooo much. I hope that our love and hope for the future, along with being a stronger person now than I was back then will help me out of this.
THANK YOU!!!!


-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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Mon, 04-18-2011 - 5:22pm

I was on them ten years ago when I lost my job and a family member was sick.

About me: A pixie in the city, 41, TTC#1 since May 2010, married 18 years.


Diagnosed with/surgically removed endometrioma Aug 2010. Sept IUI #1=BFN. Nov IUI #2=BFN. Uterine polyp removed Jan. 2011. Jan 2011 IVF cancelled. No response. 2nd

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Mon, 04-18-2011 - 9:29pm

Yes, I felt weird on them too. I felt like I was walking around underwater, if that makes any sense. Yes, I had no depression or anxiety, and everything rolled off my back...but I also was loagy and tired and just werid...and gained some weight. My lows weren't as low, but my highs were definitely not as high. I was flat...

I am sorry to hear you don't have as many follies as you want, but it is more than zero so fingers crossed. How many do they need for a cycle? I hope everything goes the way it's supposed to! Keep me posted.

I know, sometimes no matter what we do it just feels funky. I hope it all works out. ER on Easter seems very fitting....REAL Easter eggs! :)


-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37