Please don't trash us on other boards

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Please don't trash us on other boards
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Tue, 09-29-2009 - 2:45pm

I want to say I really appreciate all of the women here that have brought positive energy and continually offer support in a process that is emotionally and physically draining. I see you offer prayers, humms, crossing things and tidbits of news so we can all try to realize our goal.

Why say this? I feel the need to ask a favor. I was on another board and read something that felt like a put down to our board and that hurt.

I know it seems sometimes that there's a lot of fear and bad news posted here, but we are all here to support, rant and resolve. And in spite of the fact that we all have our challenges - physical and emotional - everyone on this board has been civil and kind and really tries to keep it upbeat and informative in order to help someone else out.

Please know that many of us have a real fear that we will never have the chance to have one child, or more children. And, there are women on this board with 300, 500 and 2500 posts or more and have been actively trying without success for years, but still offer kind words.

Infertility is misunderstood and it's a tough road to be on for any length of time without a positive result. When you come to an advanced maternal age and everything seems fine and you can't conceive, it takes a mental and physical toll on you - even when you make every effort to keep it at bay.

We all want to be mothers. Please be kinder in the future.

Jenni
Jenni
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Registered: 09-13-2007
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 2:52pm
Well said Jenni, I agree wholeheartedly



 


 


Susan V

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 3:00pm

I'm new around here, so I'm clueless about what was said, but how sad that someone would do that. :(

I can already tell just from the posts I've read in the last 2 weeks that this is a very supportive group and I'm SO glad I decided to come here.

There was an incident on one of the expecting clubs two or so years ago. Apparently, one of the expecting moms was "offended" by another expecting mom's blinkie from the Infant Loss board, which included pix of that board's angels. Her comment was not received well, and I was amazed and glad that others thought she was out of line, too, and weren't afraid to speak up.

Anyway, it still stinks that things like that happen. :(























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Registered: 02-15-2007
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 3:04pm

Amen to that! Thanks for posting

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Registered: 06-26-2009
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 4:06pm

It's disheartening to think this has occurred.

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Registered: 05-31-2004
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 5:15pm
I completely agree as well. I don't know any of the particulars about that post, but I find it sad that someone would do that. You are so right, infertility is misunderstood and ignored most of the time. Just because it happens later in life, or even after you already have children, does not make it any less painful. I started out my journey facing infertility, and many people thought the pain would go away once I had my first child, but it isn't like that, especially when I wanted more children. This is a great group of ladies, and I am so glad I finally decided to join you all. :-)

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Registered: 09-03-2009
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 5:56pm

Geez, I hope it wasn't me. When I first joined the boards, I mentioned on another one that I end up getting upset, feeling desperate and crying when I read about the hell some of you have been through. I wasn't going to hang out here at first because of that, but I find you all so informative and supportive I decided to stay.

Anyway, it was not my intent to disparage the members of the TTC board; so I hope my post wasn't misconstrued as such.

Yours in solidarity,

~Melissa

42, soon to be 43 -- would love a BFP for my birthday in October!
TTC naturally, taking PNV, eating healthy, exercising and charting
Mother to a wonderful son, age 15 1/2

~Melissa

Just turned 43 on 10/2/09. Would love a BFP for my birthday in October!

TTC naturally, taking PNV, eating healthy, exercising and charting
Mother to a wonderful son, age 15 1/2

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Registered: 09-25-2008
Tue, 09-29-2009 - 6:01pm
Infertility is misunderstood, complicated and personal...I've found nothing but open arms, love, support, & information...from all the women here...something I cherish. It's amazing how a group of women that have never met in person can become so close. Cath xx
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Registered: 05-28-2008
Sun, 10-04-2009 - 11:09am

i ditto what cath said!!! it's so nice to chat with ladies who understand what i am going through!! i don;t say this enough,
Thank you to everyone who is so supportive here!!!

Lynda