Seeking positive outlook

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Registered: 08-05-2003
Seeking positive outlook
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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 10:47pm
Hello I am 40 and looking for support in decision to try one more time. I had ectopic in May and told by my GYN not to try again due to history of ectopic and of course, my age. I have a wonderful 7 yr old by IUI that was 15 weeks premature at 1 lb 5 oz. I feel torn between the desire for another and the fright from all the hype about us "old women" wanting babies and the fear of another premature child. I feel as though I can hear the door of fertility squeaking louder each day. I made an appt to see my fertility Doc but he can not see me until end of Sept. Any moral support would be music to my ears.
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Registered: 05-09-2003
Wed, 08-06-2003 - 12:30pm
I am sorry about your loss. I understand your fears. Only you and your partner can ultimately make the decision to TTC, but go see what your RE has to say before you do.

My histroy: I am 43 my dh is 36. I have 4 dd's ages 28,26,24 and 15. My dh has none. We have been TTC for over 2 years now with 3 losses. The first 2 were early both @ 8weeks 1/02 and 8/02 both concieved naturally. Our 3rd loss was our son stillborn at 18 weeks on 6/26/03. We had went to our RE for recurrent pregnancy loss and he did an IUI with Tamoxifen and that is how I concieved Joseph. I go back to see him today, the first time since we lost our son. I don't want to give up hope but time is not on my side. So we will see. There aren't too many of us posting here but I am here everyday and would be happy to offer an support I can give.

Paula

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Registered: 08-05-2003
Thu, 08-07-2003 - 3:58pm
Thanx for sharing your story. I am also sorry for your loss.I have had 6 M/C but all have been less then 6 weeks. My DH is also younger at 35. We went through three years of fertility treatments. The first few years after my micro-preemie was born,we did not dare to try again. Then we kind of said "if it happens great".Now, I feel so torn between the sadness of giving up and the fear of trying. My friend just had a healthy baby at 42. I am not familiar with Tamoxifen, could you fill me in on that. I hope your appt with the RE went well.


Rach

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Registered: 05-09-2003
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 9:39am
Rach

Tamoxifen is usually used to help prevent breast cancer. Studies showed the increse in fertility with women taking it. My RE perscribed it to me as a ovulation booster (my words). When I went to see him on the 6th I wasn't sure what his next step would be.

He told me that I am his most fertile patient and especially at 43. Our probelm isn't getting pregnant it is staying pregnant. He ordered genetic testing to be done. He also wanted me back on Tamoxifen with IUI at ovulation. I was on CD6 and he starts Tamoxifen on CD3 but I asked him if we could start anyway. As I am concerend about wasteing a cycle. He saw no problem with that and so that is where I am now. Waitng for ov to come so we can do IUI. Probably around CD17.