struggling with a decision (non-baby related)

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Registered: 02-12-2010
struggling with a decision (non-baby related)
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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 1:00pm

What do you do if everything in your soul tells you to run, not walk the other way? So I started a job about 1.5 months ago. It started as a low paying entry level job. Half way through they lost a person in a better paying position and they wanted me to take it (there are three aspects to the position: law, accounting and system administrator; 2 out of 3 of these things I DO NOT have experience in). So my training transitioned to that job. It would be more money, more responsibility and more experience, health benefits (we have none right now) and 401k. Also, the boss is very nice (but has cancer).

The down sides: oy.... The environment is not very corporate (in this case a bad thing); the lady who trains me doesn't feel it her job to do so and she does a terrible job of training and so there are things I maybe should know by now but don't (management is aware of it). This lady talks down to me like I'm an idiot (probably because she sucks at training - it's a defense mechanism). I asked a question the other day and she said I should use some common sense in asking a question. Look lady, I don't know this business, you have been working here much longer and I am trying to figure out why it is that you all do what you do. Where I come from people are sweet, patient and happy to answer your questions as long as it will help you do your job better. Anyway, back to the bad list... they are 3 people short in the department. The biggest reason, I already don't want to go back tomorrow. I share an office with the woman who is "training" me. The good thing is that if I take the position my office is more secluded and all mine. I don't know if I should stick it out and try (I'm worried I will either fall on my face or work my butt into the ground trying not to). Oh ladies what do I do???? This decision would be so much easier if only I could use as an excuse that I am pregnant... as we planned for me to stay home the first 5 years of the child's life. I am extra sensitive today... hoping it's pg but more likely is AF coming on. DAMN!

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Registered: 08-17-2011
Mon, 02-06-2012 - 9:59am
Hello, I may be too late with my 2cents but maybe you can send an email later to your boss lol! The lady training you is a disease in the office bringing the morale down and your boss and the office would benefit by exposing the real reason why you are leaving. The same thing will happen to the next person when they try to work in that position and be trained by that woman. And, do what makes you happy, life goes by way too quickly! Happy you, happy eggs!
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Registered: 02-01-2012
Wed, 02-01-2012 - 9:26pm

Gee... Unfortunately, stressful work situations play a huge role in the attitudes of others in the work place. Whether you feel that you are qualified for the position or not, you still have this golden opportunity at your disposal. If you are positive that you would benefit from having someone else train you, I think that's worth exploring. If that is not an option, weigh what is most important to you. Similar to your situation, I

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Registered: 02-12-2010
Sun, 01-29-2012 - 9:47pm
Tracy I'm so sorry for your loss,but I'm glad it gave you courage to confront the situation. So glad the work situation turned out for the best.I hope that one day soon you get that happy n healthy bundle to hold.
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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 9:41pm
Yes, I spoke with her. She seemed okay with it but I think it got worse after that. She has a bad reputation for acting like she owns the place and knows everyone's job better than they do. My husband has me leaning towards leaving. I am not one to give up easily, often to my detriment. The posting closed on Friday I feel the right thing to do is maybe to give notice tomorrow, but I am not sure my mind is made up. Thanks everyone for your input. I really needed the feedback. I will keep u all posted.
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Registered: 12-27-2008
Sun, 01-29-2012 - 9:27pm

I'm so sorry that things are so rough at work right now.

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Registered: 09-21-2009
Sun, 01-29-2012 - 9:18pm

Michele,

I agree with Vickie. You already know what you want to do. The people in the job will get a long just fine if you are not there.Follow your heart and everything will be OK.

Mel

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Registered: 04-21-2010
Sun, 01-29-2012 - 8:47pm

I'm sure you will know the right thing to do. And you have not been difficult to me, so no apology necessary.

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Sun, 01-29-2012 - 7:48pm

Thanks Vickie! I am still on the fence. I really don't want to say goodbye to the paycheck. The boss is so nice and I don't want to leave her department in a lurch... I am sorry to everyone if I have been a little difficult lately. I sure haven't meant to be but in retrospect I probably have been.

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Registered: 04-21-2010
Sun, 01-29-2012 - 7:19pm

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