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|Tue, 11-09-2004 - 4:32pm|
There’s another issue and I haven’t seen anyone discuss it on these boards. To improve his counts, DH must stop using the one recreational drug that helps the most with his anxiety in writing his dissertation which he MUST finish this year. It has a paradoxical effect on him and does not make him sleepy but gets him active and allows him to ignore his very loud inner critic and finally write. It works better than any therapist or prozac or other prescription drug has. I don't touch it. I don’t like it because it lowers his counts, but I do see that it works really well for him, the amounts are small and he is not abusing it. I cannot see him stopping entirely for 3 months AND face the debilitating anxiety of this PhD work. We HAVE to finish this dissertation and move on to the next step in our lives and it cannot be put on hold for 3 months, the time it takes to get his counts up. He has cut back to smoking a bare minimum and I don’t want to cause any further stress for his writing.
Do we try to conceive on our own for 3 months or do we go straight to IUI or even straight to ICSI which is what my RE is leaning toward, simply because I am 40 and his counts were low 2 months ago? His counts could be higher since he has cut back significantly and he's taking the Fertile One. We have no funds but where there’s a will there’s a way.
Again, any nonjudgmental advice, encouragement, feedback, and experience would be so very appreciated.