Think my days of TTC almost over...

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Registered: 08-08-2004
Think my days of TTC almost over...
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 11:15am

I've haven't posted for a while, but thought I would pop on and update you. I am 43, have been TTC with DH for 7 years, had two losses and after the last one in November, my DH went to the dr. and asked for an appt with a urologist to get his vasectomy because he is afraid of another loss and says he doesn't want to see me go through this again. They just called last week and his appt for a consult is February 2nd. So, it looks like our days of TTC are almost over. I don't know how to feel. It seems almost a relief that I won't be waiting for AF every month after so long, but I still have some hope that I will get pg before the surgery. Weird, huh?. I have a feeling I will not be dancing in the streets when the day of the surgery approaches. It seems so final and we have wanted a baby so badly for so long.

I wish all the best of luck to everyone here TTC though. Everyone who wants and deserves children should have children or at least the option to try.


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Registered: 10-18-2004
Sun, 12-19-2004 - 4:02pm


My thoughts and prayers are with you. Maybe by Feb you both will have healed enough that maybe he won't go through with the Vas. I think you should try ( I am sure you have) to keep communication open. Maybe make this a time to do romantic things for just the 2 of you and maybe this will make you closer and more committed to your love and there for a baby out of your love.
I hope this helps, please know I will keep you in my thoughts.

Dawn 40
long cycles

Have an awesome day!!

Dawn 41, DH 35 / DD 23 years old

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Registered: 12-01-2004
Wed, 12-22-2004 - 10:22pm

God bless you, you have been through so much - I am sure that you feel so disappointed and distraught - keep your spirits up. Miracles do happen, and you just never know what is waiting for you.

Merry Christmas, enjoy your dh - and your family!

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Registered: 09-16-2004
Wed, 01-05-2005 - 4:55pm


I'm so sorry for all of your disappointments in this journey of TTC. Since you aren't conceiving anyway, why does your DH need to get a Vas? Maybe just let nature take it's course and you might conceive just naturally once the pressure is off? I might be wrong, but I have heard so much of people finally quitting all of the extra treatments and then they conceive on their own and carry the pregnancy to term.

Best luck to you and your hubby. Hang in there and don't give up!