TTC - DH wants Vasectomy
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|Thu, 11-11-2004 - 9:01am|
message #: 22043.1
date: 8:56 am
I am not new to this board but have been posting on PG over 35, then Termination after Poor Prenatal Testing. Now I am back here. I am 43 years old was 20 weeks PG when amnio determined our baby had Down syndrome. Also, autism in my DH's immediate family, so thought it best not to continue with PG. We almost did, but could not get the past the concern that there would be no one to look out for our son for 15-20 years of his life when we had passed away. He would be left alone, confused & possibly abused if we were not here to look out for him anymore.
I want to TTC as soon as possible. Had medical termination Nov. 5th and assume I will have to wait a couple more weeks to TTC to allow time to physically recover enough. The problem is that DH does not want to go through this again and went to the Dr. yesterday to get a referral to have a vasectomy. So, if I want to get PG again, it will have to be right away or not at all. He even bought condoms to prevent PG until vasectomy success confirmed.
He won't even discuss waiting for 6 months to TTC and then having the vasectomy if nothing happens. He says we TTC for 5 years, then stopped trying and got PG 2 years later out of the blue to our delite and then this happened. He says he can not watch me go through this horrible pain & disappointment again and he can't handle it himself either.
I even told him to wait and I will have a tubiligation next year. He says I have been through enough and he is going to do this.
So, I am going to get PG, I will have to get the man drunk and take advantage of him. Then, once I am PG, he will have to deal with it. I am sure he will be worried, as will I, but he will get over it. The only problem is that it took us so long to get PG this time, it is unlikely that I will get PG at all anyway.
Anyone have any suggestions as to when to go for it? Still bleeding from termination and a little sore if I am on my feet for too long. It was only 6 days ago. I want to be in prime condition when I try so I don't miss my chance.