Waiting to "O" in April

I'm here waiting... CD8. DH and I had a discussion while away in NYC for our anniversary. He thinks I stress myself out too much and doesn't like the TTC sex we have. He wanted me to stop trying so hard. The result? I didn't temp the whole time we were gone. However, I had ordered more CBEFM test strips before we left, no reason not to use them so I am still going to use those, check mucus, CP and take my supplements. I'm wondering if I should take DHEA again hmmm. Perhaps my short cycle that month was simply a cooincidence? Perhaps. In any event, I think the only thing I am dropping is the temping. I have to find a way to be sexy about the TTC sex lol... Find a way to "want" it those days...Any tips ladies? I am certain that my thinking is flawed here. We have been married 16 years and together 25 (end of may) so I guess I should be thinking about the early days and what made us melt back then.  It was magical and easy, we didn't have to "try," we just did.  Now we're old, we're tired and we've BTDT... Even still, we have not BTDT, specifically, in a while in most cases. I mean I think we both tend to drop the good stuff leading up to the better stuff Maybe focus on foreplay. I'm frustrated I guess. Oh well, we had a lovely 5 days in NYC and had some good quality (and sexy) times together so it is still there but it seems it requires us not to work and possibly be somewhere other than home? A rarity for sure. Ughhh. I guess I am being negative here but I need to vent I s'pose. I know my DH and I can do this, but I am not sure how it gets done without "stressing" over it. GL ladies! Baby Dust for you all!

~Michele