What Not to Say!

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Registered: 11-13-2008
What Not to Say!
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Tue, 01-24-2012 - 2:00pm

You know you've gotten them..

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Registered: 02-12-2010
Sat, 01-28-2012 - 8:46am

I'm so sorry for your losses. Wow, it's amazing what insensitive things people can say to you. I have never had a miscarriage, that I am aware of, so I have never heard these odd "reassurances." I have been lucky that noone has dissuaded me in my journey. My DH is a bit worried but he wants a baby too. My mom is worried but wants a grandchild. They both just want me to be happy. My in-laws and friends say you know if you try too hard it can be more stressful and often times it happens when you aren't even trying. I think they are right about that so to me they aren't being insensitive. I don't stress about it much anymore, I think I did the first two cycles but not since. I'm sort of just having faith, if it happens it happens and, if not, we are lucky enough to have the resources to adopt so that is the plan.

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Registered: 12-27-2008
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 11:01pm

These are the top ones that come to mind...

"Its always easier to get pregnant after you have already had a baby"

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Registered: 02-12-2010
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 10:25pm
Nothing really gets me much. Yes I hear that relax statement a lot but I figure people just wanna help. I must just really be overly laid back because nothing much phases me... Sometimes I wish others would join me.