What Should I Do?? Advice Please!
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| Sat, 06-04-2011 - 11:05am |
Hi ladies,
Well, AF showed up yesterday so I'm officially out this month. It's the first time in MANY months that I didn't cry when AF showed up. I was actually relieved. Here's why:
As some of you know, I have been on an intense job search since my recent layoff. I am planning on getting hired by the end of the summer. It has been my plan all the while that I would undergo my first IVF cycle in early summer so that I could be gainfully employed by the time I give birth.
Well, that plan sounds good and well but what should I do NOW? I got AF yesterday, and I'm supposed to start my IVF cycle this MONDAY. BUT I am knee-deep in an interview process right now for a job I really want. I have been called back for a THIRD interview - I made it to the final round of just me and one other person! (out of 170 applicants!) :-) It's in just over a week. But if I begin IVF MONDAY, I need to be flexible for the ER date, transfer date, etc. Plus I have no idea how the fertility injections are going to make me feel. Will I be weepy and weird?? I want to be in my top form for the interview and am afraid.
Should I delay IVF until next month?? And if I do delay it, I won't have the same flexibility in my schedule to take off for ER and ET because I am beginning a new job. If I get this particular job, my communte will be about an hour door to door. This timing SUCKS for IVF. Aaargh. I need some serious advice.
And if I DON"t get this job I will be POd that I didn't do IVF while I was unemployed and had the time.
I'm 42, clock's a tickin and I'm so confused as to what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks!!
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Dianne, so sorry AF found you. WOW, congrats on the interview- you should be so proud of yourself.
I see the dilemma you have. I think I would have to continue with the IVF now and just hope that retrieval day isn't the same as interview day. It will be harder to take time off from the new job to do the process and hopefully things will work out where
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DH and I were discussing it today and we were leaning toward postponing IVF one cycle so I could really focus on getting a good job. But now that I am reading your post, I am torn. You make some really good points!!
Must sleep on it more. This is a hard one!!!!!
Georgie
Hi Georgie!
Thank you for your support!!
Wow intersting concensus going here!
I think the thing that freaks me out about going forward this month is that I've never taken all these IVF drugs before, and I have no idea how they are going to affect me. And baby or no baby, I need to get a job before my severance pay runs out (end of the summer). If for some reason I go into this interview (and others) all messed up, emotional and panicky, I fear I will blow it. And I just want, no, need, to have a job as soon as possible.
I am wondering if I could take this cycle off, and then go in for IVF after I am settled into my new position. I could call in sick on ET/ER days....I dunno. I don't know!
Do you think one cycle wait will make a huge difference in my chanced of conceiving? I am 42 and I know they say every cycle counts. But do you think taking off one month would be a bad idea? I just want so badly to do the best thing for me and DH, and I am struggling with this decision so much.
More feedback please!!!!!!!! Thanks you guys. :)
Georgie
You need to do what is right for your and your husband.
Susan L.
Robert Edward Xavier Lin - Born July 31, 2010 at 5:56AM, 6 pounds 4 ounces and 19 inches long. He spent 2 weeks in the NICU but he's doing great now!
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your feedback. I am so appreciative.
I decided to wait a cycle before proceeding with IVF. I just had another job interview this morning, and I am glad I made the choice I made. It takes so much effort and focus for me to do these interviews and the stress and fear of IVF would be too much.
I will pick up hopefully next cycle.
I also just found out this morning that my DH is a carrier for Gaucher's Disease. So now I have to go get tested for that. So maybe it is better to wait and find out first about this genetic curveball.
I noticed you said it took you two IVF tries. I'm getting ready next month to try IVF #2. Our first was cancelled due to a crummy response to the meds. I'm hoping this time my eight months of acupuncture will help, along with the herbs I've been taking and NOT taking bcps like I did with the one that was a bust. I am trying to remember your story... did you do IVF with your own eggs or with DE? Just curious. Am also curious as to what your protocol was if you used your own eggs? My busted cycle was the lupron micro-flare protocol, and it totally flopped for me. Thanks for the info!
:-) Brandy, 42 yrs. old
Mom of a fifteen n month old precious little boy, conceived in Aug. 08 on our second IUI attempt (C
Hi there,
Just thought i'd let you know that i'm doing an IVF cycle this month. I had a failed IUI and when i got AF i went straight to IVF. I did have a wee panic yesterday as all of sudden i felt as if i didn't know what was going on as it all happened so quickly - but i spoke with my RE and now feel better about that.
As far as the drugs go....I started on 375 gonal F and 75 Luveris...they were ok, though the Luveris does sting a bit and did bruise me. On day 5 i also went onto .25 Cetrotide. So 3 sub cut injections per evening. I'm due to have another scan on Monday and my RE thinks i will be ready for ET on Wed or Thur. Other than feeling a bit nauseas at times and a bit of Abdo discomfort i'm ok. I do feel surprisingly emotional at times - seems to come out of nowhere and i feel like shedding a few tears!
:-) Brandy, 42 yrs. old
Mom of a fifteen n month old precious little boy, conceived in Aug. 08 on our second IUI attempt (C
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