WHave you considered IVF with donor egg?
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|Fri, 12-17-2004 - 5:19pm|
I am curious as to peoples response in having IVF with a donor egg. I am 41 (since Oct) and have been trying to conceive my second child since I was 38, nearly 39. After 9 months of trying I did conceive at 39 1/2 only to have a miscarriage at 10 weeks as the fetus stopped developing at 7. Last April I started going to a reknowned fertility specialist in my area and have run the cycle from Clomid to Follistim and many tests in between. All tests came out great but my most recent response to Follistim was not good as I O'd on my own which is a good indication that Ovarian reserve is quite poor. ( although my response to the fertility meds has never been overly great) The doctor has presented me with the idea that IVF with a donor egg may be the best option for me. My husband wants a child desperately. In fact wanted one right after we had our first (which is now 9, and we conceived on the first try). I was not ready again though until I was 38. I feel bad that I have dreprived him of this not to mention my desire now is strong. However I am not sure I can do a donor egg and look at a child that is my husband's but not biologically mine. Financially I think we can swing this as insurance will not pay for this and has paid little of my infertilty costs.
I am just not sure I can do it. I am not sure if my Ego is too big or what. I was wondering what everyone's thoughts are if they were given the opportunity to do this. Would you?
I am so confused. This has all been a rollercoaster ride with high moments of hope and low valleys of depression and desire to just quit.
Please let me know your thoughts.