When is it enought? So confused! (mc, dd
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|Thu, 07-29-2004 - 3:38pm|
I am a sometimes lurker here and I hoping that some of you won't mind giving me some of your words of wisdom and thoughts. I have seem a thoughtful and supportive group of women here during my "lurks" and I really respect your thoughts and advice.
The abbreviated version of my story is as follows: Chris (41), DH (38), DD (3). 3 MC's - ~i~ Feb 2003, ~i~ June 2003, ~i~ Jan 2004. Last two MC's were trisomys. First MC unknown. Complete work-up by RE shows no problems - just bad eggs. We have been TTC since the last MC in January with no luck. DH and I went to see the RE again yesterday. Her recommendation, given my age and history, is to do injectibles with IUI.
My head is swimming!! I really want another child. I love being a Mom. But the "numbers" are scary. 40% (statistically) of my eggs are bad and could result in another MC or REALLY hard decision. 20% of multiples with the risks that brings. Multiples would mean drastic and hard changes to our lives.
How do you make the decision to go ahead or not? I want another child but I do recognize that I am very fortunate to have my DD. I have a good life now. Each and every MC has cost me, my DH, and my DD. The cost is the time that I have lost while I have pulled myself out of the hole I sink into. How do I weight the desire/longing I have for another child against the risks that I am taking by putting an already "good" life in jeapardy?
Thanks to anyone who has read all the way through this. Special thanks to anyone who might give me their thoughts. I know that no one person can give me an answer but your shared thoughts might help me to work this all through.