When should I seek medical intervention?

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Registered: 06-16-2003
When should I seek medical intervention?
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Wed, 11-26-2003 - 10:59am
Hi, I am new here....just reading really...I have a question...I am 42. I was married for the 2nd time last April and got pregnant on my honeymoon....the third time I ever had unprotected sex (I have two sons)...I had a miscarriage (blighted ovum) in June/July at 6 weeks pregnant. I waited the two - three months and starting trying. I have tried now for two months and nothing..I am so worried.......How long should I keep trying before I should see the doctor and talk about some assistance to conceiving.....I am in good health....

Thanks!

Barbara

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Registered: 11-22-2003
Wed, 11-26-2003 - 12:00pm
Hi Barbara, My name is Robin an i'm also new here. It's so nice to read about and talk to women who are in my same situation. I've had a similar experience I miscarried my first child at 16 weeks and the doctor's were never sure why. I was told it probably had to do with the placenta. My doctor at the time told me to wait 6 months before trying again and sure enough I got pregnant again. By that time I had moved and was seeing a different doctor who was also a fertility specialist and he told me to take one baby aspirin every day. I'm not sure what that does but i've talked to other people who have had a miscarriage and they were taking them too.
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Registered: 11-19-2003
Fri, 11-28-2003 - 7:06pm
Curious what your day 3 FSH and estrodial numbers were, if you've been tested. My numbers were excellent for my age, I'm told but still haven't conceived after 3 mos of TTC #2. I turned 42 in Oct. and am also wondering at what point I seek medical intervention.

Best of luck to us both!

t

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Registered: 11-30-2003
Sun, 11-30-2003 - 7:33pm
Hi Barbara: I am new to this site too. You asked when you thought you should seek medical assistance. From what I've read, women under 35 should try for 12 months before seeking assistance and women 35 or over should try for 6 months. It will help the doctor if you are charting your daily temperature (if you're not already doing that...)

My dh and I tried for several years before seeking medical assistance...wish I would have gone sooner, but there's no going back.

Wish you luck & baby dust!!

Margie

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Mon, 12-01-2003 - 9:32am
Hi,

I don't know what my FSH or estodial numbers are...? I have never been tested..maybe I should? I would hope that is stands to reason if I conceived fairly easy a few months ago, numbers should be good...? How long are you going to wait before seeking a doctors help? When did you have your first born? Thanks for your reply! Good luck to you too!!!!

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Mon, 12-01-2003 - 12:14pm
I'd definitely do a day 3 FSH and estradial test, as it's the first blood test a fertility doctor would do anyway. I've learned that at 42, although my FSH test and estrogen numbers are high, I may not necessarily ovulate every month. My confusion was how, if I got my period every month, I wasn't ovulating.. The answer is that if there's a month where I don't ovulate (which I confirm by charting my BBT and CM), I will begin to bleed at the usual time of the month but it's not an actual period- forgot what it's called.

I've also been briefly pregnant twice in the past 12 mos. but had an early miscarriage. I'm trying not to get too discouraged but also stay realistic about my chances of conceiving naturally or with the help of Clomid should I need.. Don't think we're up for the financial and emotional cost of IVF.

Curious if you're experiencing a drier vagina, or lack of obvious egg white CM? This has been an issue for me.

Hang in there and good luck!

t.

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 9:50am
Hi again,

You have had two miscarriages? You must be ovulating well then. I will go and get checked. Now I am very curious and a little scared...geez....what happens if my numbers are bad? Could that be a few months after being pregnant? I don't notice a drier vagina...perhaps a little drier than years ago and I did have good CM...although I haven't paid attention the last couple of months since the miscarriage. I will now be paying closer attention. I understand the CM can predict ovulation. I used an ovulation kit last month and it showed positive around O time.....I am also worried because although my periods are regular, my last period was a day shorter...I wonder if I should be concerned.....Yikes....this is occupying all my thoughts....

Are you dilligently trying? Are you thinking about fertility drugs at any point?

!Good luck to us both!

Barbara

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Wed, 12-03-2003 - 4:44pm
I may have miscarried, but not sure as my AF was late, had pg symptoms but wasn't charting bbt, etc. so couldn't verify.. Anyway, yes diligently trying now so fingers crossed. Don't remember how old you are, your history, etc.. I am finding that at 42 my cm is much less drier than usual and ewcm almost non-existent, only water cm. I will begin bbt and charting with Dec. cycle to time intercourse to 'o'.. and if nothing after 3 cycles I'll seek fertility help.

How about you?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-16-2003
Thu, 12-04-2003 - 7:58am
3 cycles sounds like a fair wait. I am 42, recently remarried. I have two sons, ages 20 and 8. The third time in my life I had unprotected sex, (the other two times resulted in my sons) I got pregnant (on my honeymoon), I miscarried 6 weeks later this past July. I waited for my Af to come and then waited two months to try as the doctor suggested. I semi tried in October (no charting, etc.,) and then last month I used an ovulation kit and timed to that. Nothing. Coming up again to try next week....maybe after this time I will see what my hormones are doing. I don't know anything about fertility drugs....but I know that every month counts now. I have never charted bbt or anything...would that be a best indicator of O? Do you know how reliable the O tests are?

Barbara

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Registered: 09-27-2003
Sat, 12-06-2003 - 6:34pm
Hi all,

I was gratified to read postings from other women in my same situation: 42 and trying to conceive. For me, it is the first time seriously trying to conceive in my life (no pregnancies). I have regular AFs and also EWCM every month. However, trying on the days of the EWCM in the past few months has not worked out. My "advanced maternal age" really scares me.

I am seeing a fertility doctor, have had all the tests (I think there were 30 vials of blood over three visits to the lab) and will have the Consultation in a few days. My guess is Clomid. Any thoughts on this?

I wish I were in a position to give advice. All I can say is, good luck to us all!

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Tue, 12-09-2003 - 3:34pm
I'm also ttc (#2, ds 14) >40.. so there are many of us hopefuls! I would love to hear how your first consultation goes.. I'm also trying the low tech/natural route for the next couple of months.. My day3 fsh was 6.8 and estradiol was 68, which I'm told is good for my age. Just starting charting bbt/cm this month so we'll see.

Good luck to you and please let me know how it goes/what the doc recommends, etc.

Best!

Tilo

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