Worried about TTC anyone advice?

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Registered: 10-18-2004
Worried about TTC anyone advice?
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Mon, 11-08-2004 - 3:40pm
Hello!

I am a 40 year old who remarried after 20 years being single. My husband has no children and never been married. I have an awesome 22 year old daughter. My question is I would love to have a baby but I have serious concerns.

I have Mild Epelepsey, Fibromyalgia, and chronic fatique syndrome, I also have an illness that I have to take medication to sleep or I will not sleep for days or go into Rem sleep at all, which aggravates the other illnesses. I went into a coma 8 years ago and when I came out I had these illnesses and had to learn to walk, talk, eat, well everything again. I did but still have trouble with spelling and short term memory.

My concern is I am in extreme pain everyday and I take Darvocet at night. I can usually ignore the pain during the day but at night it keeps me from sleeping. I have to get shots in my back every three weeks for muscle spasms. I take Keppra the Dr wants me on 750mg dose but I have myself on a very LOW 250.MG because of side affects and am doing fairly well as long as I keep the stress and pain down. I have been to the Safe fetus.com board and it doesn't tell me about Keppra or Darvocet and I am wondering if anyone else knows anything else about how it affects the baby? I read on the insert that Keppra has not been linked to birth defects on mice under 750 mg a day and they are doing a study on PG women.

1st concern is my meds hurting the baby I take Lowest dose of Darvocet, Ambiem 10mg, Keppra 250mg and Zoloft 100mg. Any advice will be appreciated. Ambiem and Zoloft are class B drugs.

2nd concern is they now think Fibro is genetic as well as CFS. I couldn't bear to make my child suffer the way I do at times. However, my daughter does not have these illnesses, but my sister and her children do. They still play and my daughter and 2 of her three children are gifted. The child with the worst Fibro isn't gifted.

I would appreciate your advice. I believe in the power of prayer but I believe my worrying is keeping us from getting PG.

I have talked to my husband about adoption and he is warming up to the idea. I LOVED being PG and being a mom, but I am so worried my child would be ill and I couldn't forgive myself for that. However, somedays I just think how it was to hold my daughter watch her grow, learn and...oh I am so confused. We have been trying 8 cycles but since I am not reg, no luck

Thanks for listening!

((hugs))

Dawn 40

DH 35

DD 22 years old

Foster mom to 4 dogs 3 cats

and Grandma to 110 Doberman Pincher and a new colt. Daughter has no plans for any 2 legged children :-(

Have an awesome day!!

Dawn 41, DH 35 / DD 23 years old

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Registered: 10-18-2004
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 4:29pm
I know this sounds crazy but just putting my concerns down on my last post made me feel much better. The Obgyn said everything will be okay, the Fibro dr said it will be hard on me, that's when I started worrying.

Thanks for everyone at the board!

I am sure it helps that the new kitten I am now mother too is licking ands snuggling with me. I fed him every 2 hours with an eye dropper when I got him his eyes wasn't open. Now he is about 2 1/2 months and gets very lovable when I get on the computer..LOL Animals are so much like children!

Have an awesome day!

Dawn 40

DH 35

DD 22 years old

Foster mom to 4 dogs 3 cats

and Grandma to 110 Doberman Pincher and a new colt. Daughter has no plans for any 2 legged children :-(

Have an awesome day!!

Dawn 41, DH 35 / DD 23 years old

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 6:29pm
Just go by what your doc says, Dawn. If your Ob isn't concerned about your meds, then you probably shouldn't worry. I think I mentioned in a previous post to you about a friend of mine who had a baby while suffering from fibro. She did just fine. She was in her early 30s, though, so I suppose that makes a bit of difference.

I had to laugh when you mentioned your kitten. I'm "mom" to a 2-year-old cat who was orphaned at 17 days. His foster mom bottle fed him and to this day he still loves to be cuddled when he eats, even though it's dry food. They develop funny, very unkittylike habits when they're fed and raised by people instead of cat moms :-).

Take care.

Jodi



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Mon, 11-08-2004 - 7:09pm


Jodi,

Hello, out of my 3 cats the 2 I hand fed after ( both) being left to die are very lovable and ride in the car with me. One is Male and about 2 now and then the little guy he rides with me when I travel, run to the store ect...he loves it. The one I saved after being attacked by dogs is lovable but she likes to stay in the garage most of the time and come in eat, get petted then go back outside. 3 of the 4 dogs I have was very abused and starved but doing well now 85, 75, 65 pounds the kitten will jump on the Alpha Male bite his ears, nose ect and he just lays there. When he gets tired of it he lays his head on the baby..LOL My husband makes fun of me because even though my dogs are so big they come to me everynight to be rocked and sang to sleep. He told me we needed a baby so I will quite spoiling the animals so much..LOL I think it is a lost cause that is my nature.

This is my husbands first kitten, he was raised cats were nasty, so I was VERY surprised when he got up with me at the every 2 hour feedings! Then he wouldn't let me give him away to the home I found him..LOL

Yes, animals act more human when raised with humans and they can be so caring and preseptive! On my days I hurt, my Alpha Male Toby, won't leave my side. He is very conforting and caring and mothers the other strays I bring in. They are so much like children, they go off to play but come back for love and to be told everythings okay and off they go again.

I am really glad someone took care of your special cat and now he has such a good mother :-)

Dawn 40

DH 35

DD 22 years old

Foster mom to 4 dogs 3 cats

and Grandma to 110 Doberman Pincher and a new colt. Daughter has no plans for any 2 legged children :-(

Have an awesome day!!

Dawn 41, DH 35 / DD 23 years old