Yet another with a baby

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Registered: 02-12-2010
Yet another with a baby
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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 7:27pm

Hi guys,

I am genuinely happy for people that have babies, but there is just so much vicarious jubilation I can muster... My neice, just announced she is pregnant with her second child. Yes she is young 23 but really is barely getting by with my nephew. My point of that isn't to say that she shouldn't have a child when she doesn't have money, my reasoning is because money and timing were the two reasons we delayed our family until recently. Most days, I feel I did the right thing waiting to try to have a baby until 40+ but it's days like this I wished I had attempted pregnancy much sooner. That way now I could be having my 2nd child rather than struggling to have my first. Just slightly melancholy about it. Happy for her but having a day I wish I had made other decisions. My mom always said there would never be a perfect time. I tried to wait for the perfect time, and obviously this too is not the perfect time, in fact I might be out of time. And even if I am not I have a much greater chance of M/C (something I try not to think about since I gotta get pg first). I can't even imagine the roller coaster ride that would present. I really feel for all of you who have endured any m/c. I would say I wish I understood but I don't want a true understanding of that feeling. It is enough for me to understand it is painful losing someone you have such a bond with.

Michele

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Registered: 04-21-2010
Tue, 10-25-2011 - 5:09pm

(((Applause))) Very well said. I have been sitting here reading this thread and trying to find the right words to post here but you have said it perfectly. I hope we can all respect each other's opinions and not take them as personal attacks.

I hope no one here feels attacked or threatened for thinking or feeling a certain way. I hope we can continue to be a board of mature women with compassion and love for each other. We are all here for the same reason- we want a baby. With that said,

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Registered: 03-28-2010
Tue, 10-25-2011 - 5:36pm

Very nice post & well stated!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Registered: 02-12-2010
Tue, 10-25-2011 - 7:10pm

I for one, invite other POV's, I am glad you visited. I think as women it is in our nature to finely tune how our statements are perceived, sometimes to the point of overkill. I look at this thread as nothing more than that (not the overkill just the fine tuning part). I hope that you visit any site you want to and say whatever is on your mind. I certainly do!!!

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