41 and TTC my 2nd child

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41 and TTC my 2nd child
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Thu, 02-01-2007 - 11:17am

Hi, I'm new here. DH and I just decided to go ahead with IUI and possibly IVF to conceive our 2nd child. Our DD is now 9 years old and was conceived on my 2nd cycle, the old fashioned way. We've been trying for about 7 years to have a second and have looked into infertility treatments a couple of times, but realize time is running out or has run out. We just never seemed to be ready at the same time before, but now feel like it's now or never. We just met with the RE last night. I'm about mid-cycle, so we will most likely try a few IUI cycles before going ahead with IVF. I had gotten used to the idea of having an only child, but DH has talked me into trying again. We have the option of going right to IVF, but I want to give IUI a chance. If nothing else, it will get me used to the idea of IVF and all the increased risks associated with that.

Wish me luck. I'm still a little shakey.

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Thu, 02-01-2007 - 11:51am

Oh, camjl, I am so wishing you luck and confidence!

Emily (Ada's maman since 3/14/04)

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Fri, 02-02-2007 - 10:28am

Well, for one thing, I feel like I am taking a huge leap of faith. TTC a second child has been such an emotional roller coaster for me. And it took a lot for me to come to terms with having an only child, mainly because it was just very difficult to accept that I couldn't have another if I wanted one.

Secondly, there are risks with the drugs and risks for my advanced maternal age. Hearing what the risks are is very tough. I know that the RE is obligated to go over that stuff, but it's hard not to focus on those risks, even though my chances of having an issue are really not that great. Even though most women are fine, someone has an issue and that someone could very well be me. I'm lucky in that I am very healthy and I have had an uneventful PG and delivery. And I think that I am prepared that this may not happen. But it's difficult to let my heart get involved and to start dreaming of having another baby, when I know how tough it was to deal with infertility in the past.

Thanks so much for the good luck wishes. It means a lot.

Christine (mommy to Victoria 10/22/97)

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Fri, 02-02-2007 - 11:16am

Don't worry too much about the risks! I did IUI and IVF several times and am older than you are. Though they didn't work for me, I got to know plenty of women in the waiting room who got pregnant on the first or second try, and had no problems with the treatments! The shots etc. hurt a little bit--but my husband got to be really good at giving them and I just bit the bullet and got used to them! :-)

Good luck!!!!

Lois

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Fri, 02-02-2007 - 11:27am
Yep, I can understand.

Emily (Ada's maman since 3/14/04)