42? Oh sure, NOW my bio-clock goes off!

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42? Oh sure, NOW my bio-clock goes off!
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Sun, 07-18-2010 - 2:18am

OK, as a 42 y.o. with a Day 3 FSH of 10.6 & Estradiol of 67-ish, I gather this board is a "safe space," which is good cuz I truly am kind of chicken about TTC! Never pregnant before, but never tried, either. Thanks for being here.

Deets: My husband has a vasectomy (2 kids already), and I'm meeting with an RE next week to get opinions on whether hubs should try a reversal, or whether --given my age and numbers-- we should just move straight away to ART like IVF, and do sperm retrieval on him. (Which, I guess, would mean I wouldn't be the only one in the household with some needles in my future...)

Right now, I'm taking pre-natal vitamins -OH THE IRONY- with DHEA & fish oil, evening primrose oil, plus Vitex and Chinese herbs for female hormonal balance ("Heavenly Water"). Also going to acupuncture, trying to stay calm with mediation and yoga, and, um, maybe, just possibly, occasionally avoiding baby-saturated environments. You know, for, ah, psychological reasons. Gosh, I gotta tell ya, once you get TTC on your mind, you'll notice those things are everywhere! :P

Any New York girls have any thoughts on NYU vs. Cornell for all-around quality of care? I'm all ears.

Anyway, Hi!

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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 7:29pm

OMG, TV: It can work for ya or against ya! Jeez. What timing, huh?

I have "30 Rock" on my side, since Liz Lemon is always going on about wanting a baby. We watch old seasons on DVR all the time. In one episode, she's holding a life-like infant doll and says to her co-worker, Pete, "Is it so wrong that I want one of these to grow up and resent me?" LOL. Exactly! That's what *I* want!

But hubs says: He's too old; he wants time to himself for the first time in his adult life; he's afraid of birth defects; they're expensive (he knows WAY better than to hint that *I'm* too old. Smart man!), blah blah blah blah blah. All perfectly reasonable reasons BUT...

Frustrating. But, in my own hippie-dippy way, I affirm that the best outcome will happen. Just call me the world's first 42 y.o. Pollyanna! :P

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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 6:18pm

I found a drink or 2 at dinner out was always a good time to start up the conversation.


I tell ya, it didn't help me very much last night while we were watching BostonMed and the OBGYN's were talking about women having babies will be the most dangerous thing they will ever do because that is one of his major concerns.

 


 


Susan V

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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 6:13pm

Thanks, girl. Yep, all you can do is talk...I'm waiting patiently for another window of opportunity to bring up the subject. Helps to know you have had the same situation, and are now working to "make it happen." I needed that message of hope today. :)

I'm so dispirited at times. He's got good reasons to not want more kids, and he knows how badly I want to have one more (just one more! one of my own.) but right now, all I can do is pray to my higher angels that we can have a different outcome to the conversation we've had so many times already.

xoxox

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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 5:24pm
Chicken - my DH was NOT on board either.
 


 


Susan V

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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 3:15pm

Oh, what an encouraging story! Happy for you!!! KUP, of course, as bean develops.

Right now, having met with a great RE in NYC, and done most of the "reproductive profile" testing, I'm holding off on doing anything else because DH is not on board (with a vasectomy, he kind of has the final say right now. Haha).

If he changes his mind, I'll probably do IVF/ICSI right away, since v. reversals take time, it costs as much as v.r. and secondary vasectomy, and hey, I may need the IVF anyway! (I have a good AFC count, but I'm not sure the egg quality is all that good.)

Thanks for the good luck wishes. From your typin' fingers to God's (and DH's) ears. xoxo

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Fri, 07-23-2010 - 12:32pm
Welcome and good luck in this TTC journey!
First time mother at 43 to Colt - born Oct. 24 2010
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Tue, 07-20-2010 - 8:03pm

Thank you kindly for the warm welcome!

Loves Me, I did a whole data-dump on the great RE I met with at NYU in the city today--look for the Hi Ho, Hi Ho entry. They don't do OB/GYN, but they do all manner of fertility assistance, including tests, screens, alternative therapies like acupuncture, and the usual IVF/IUI/ART stuff. You'll get a very clear picture of your fertility by seeing them.

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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 11:12pm
Hello and welcome. GL to you -- and yes...you have for sure, come to the right place!

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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 9:28pm

Hey there -- I chose RMA because my gyno recommended them when I needed a little uterine surgery. I really liked the surgeon, Dr. Alan Copperman, so when I decided to do IVF he was my first choice. FWIW, he's always in New York magazine's Best Doctors issue. I have seen pretty much all the docs in the practice and they've all been patient and friendly and compassionate. The nurses are excellent, too.

Haha, my DH also had (has?) Male Ambivalence Factor. It makes things a lot harder, for sure. Good luck!


Susan CB



TTC #1 at age (gulp) 42

June 2008: m/c

April 2010: IVF #1 -- chemical pregnancy

June 2010: IVF #2 -- BFN





Susan CB

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Mon, 07-19-2010 - 11:02am

Hey Chickie! Welcome!


I totally hear you with the bio clock ticking for the first time! I am 41 and TTC#1!


I haven't yet begun much tseting--if I'm not PG by the end of the summer, the plan is to start.


Good luck!! You will find a wealth of info and support from the incredible ladies on this site!


As far as NYC hospitals go, I have had friends deliver at both and hear they are both top of the line. But I personally have no experience with them.


Do you have an RE recommendation and/or favorite OB/GYN? I am on the fence with mine and going for word of mouth recommendations.


Nice to "meet" you!! :)



-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


TTC#1 since March 2010
Acupuncture, Chinese Herbs, OPKs, Charting (for now)





-Dianne, 41 yo
DH 37


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