43 years old..my story..here is hope.

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43 years old..my story..here is hope.
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 12:21am
I am 43 years old. Second marriage. Had 4 miscarriages. At 42, I simply gave up. After I "gave up" I became pregnant naturally. No treatment, no pills, nothing. At 9 weeks started spotting again, and I was sad. didn't go to the Dr, as I knew that if I was losing the baby, would be God's will. I just stayed home and prayed. I told God I was putting all my faith in HIM. Went to work monday, and had my appt next week, which by then the spotting stopped. When I had the sonogram, I asked the Dr, is the baby alive? He gave me a crazy look and said, don't you see the hands moving? I was happy but cautious. After 7 months, Faith was born via c-section, and was 9 lbs. Yes, I named her Faith. I have a 23 year old son, 18 year old son, and 18 month old daughter Faith.....
to everyone TTC, do not lose your hope......
Baby dust to all....
Maria Teresa
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Registered: 11-12-2004
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 9:49am

Beautiful story. Thanks for sharing. I am also 42 and 12w5d pregnant. My best advice is to not give up, but dont make it the focus of your world. Think of it as... if it happens it happens. Putting alot of stress on yourself in attempting to conceive is the most damaging part of the process. Once I changed my attitude/focus (which at the time I changed my focus to getting physically fit should I by chance become pregnant) I enjoyed my partner more and became phycially and emotionally relaxed which I believe helped me acheive pregnancy.

Melody (42)
edd 1/19/07

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Registered: 04-08-2006
Wed, 07-12-2006 - 11:51am

I love your message, it gives me new hope.

I Will be 40 in September and been ttc for 1 year. We have a 8 year old daughter. I can't afford fertility treatments.

Did you have all the testing done? Was everythink ok? You had 4 miscarriages, but you could get pregnant. I have not been able to even get pregnant within a year. I have a post here" could i have been pregnant". I got really depressed this time because i really thought i was pregnant.

I had the 3 day fsh a few months ago and it was 7.9 lh 3.1 and had a vaginal ultrasound - normal. My dh had SA - normal.

I did not have a hsg, insurance does not cover this.


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Wed, 07-12-2006 - 8:06pm

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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 10:43am

Maria Teresa,

Thank you for sharing your story. I am 42 and have had 2 m/c, 4 failed IUI's and 1 failed IVF. Both times I did get pg were on my own when I was relaxed and just said to go "Thy will be done."

I am doing one last IVF and praying for a miracle. After that I am going to get on with life and still consider other options but i am going to start living again. In my heart, I know that I am not done in my wish for being blessed with a child of my own...but I refuse to let IF rule my life anymore the way it has for the last 2.5 years........God knows the desires of my heart and His timing is not our timing...which is a bit frustrating to say the least !

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter.....you showed your faith by naming her such......

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