also 41 and TTC #2

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Registered: 06-25-2003
also 41 and TTC #2
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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 12:23pm
Hi everyone,

I am a constant lurker and sometimes poster to the IUI and IVF boards. I guess I don't want to admit to myself that my IF is maybe related to my age! Hence my not posting here before! (Ain't denial great).

I thought I would introduce myself. I am 41 with DS, 2 1/2, concieved naturally after 6 mo TTC. After TTC #2 about 8 months (now 4 mo ago), I stepped it up and started with an RE. We've now had HSG, cleared out a blocked tube and 2 IUI with clomid cycles. Turns out DH has varicocele and low sperm count (< 5 mil/ml). I am 11 days post IUI #2 and although I swore I would not take HPT until tomorrow, I took it this morning... BFN.

We are ready to move onto IVF and have orientation scheduled for next tuesday (unless AF doesn't show...highly unlikely). The waiting is killing me...I am trying not to obsess, but I am not succeeding. I am sick of the waiting and wish there was something I could DO!

How do you guys deal with not obsessing and all this waiting?

Jasmine

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Registered: 05-28-2003
In reply to: jasmop
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 12:37pm

Jasmine glad that you have joined us.

Cathie

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Registered: 06-25-2003
In reply to: jasmop
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 1:37pm
Hi Cathy

Thanks for your nice words.

I must admit that it is great to have DS. As hard as this is for me, I can only imagine the pain and emotional turmoil for those TTC #1.

Thanks for your offer on IVF info. I have read as much as I can find about and am lurking on the IVF board all the time. I think I am an expert without even having been through it yet :) I'm a scientist, so it's kind of in my nature to want know what is going on. I know I'll have more questions once we get into it.

The waiting does stink...it would be nice to have a crystal ball to know how it will turn out so you don't have to worry and obsess so much, then the wait wouldn't seem so long. As far as my BFN, in some ways, it would be nice for AF to just get here, so I don't feel like I am in limbo, on the other hand, I guess there is still hope.

Good luck to you.

Jasmine
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Registered: 11-06-2003
In reply to: jasmop
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 5:23pm
HI Jasmine,

I just wanted to wish you much luck in ttc #2. I conceived #1 in a clomid/IUI cycle and am now pregnant with #2 (ivf cycle). So, when the time comes, ask away!

The waiting is horrific. It seems like you are always in some sort of waiting pattern with IF. I don't think there is much you can do about it but the boards are helpful in knowing you are not alone.

Best of luck to you!

Karen (40)

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