am i selfish

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2006
am i selfish
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Tue, 12-09-2008 - 12:47pm

I see so many younger women trying so hard to have yet one... I have 2 who are older... 24 and 19,, am I being selfish.. at wanting to start over again?


I wish all of you baby dust..

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-12-2008
In reply to: midnite0709
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 12:59pm

I really don't know how wanting to have children could ever be considered "selfish". I have heard people say that having "old" parents would be selfish because the child has a higher chance of having a parent die while they are still relatively young. The truth is that people can die every day, at every age. If you want to take a step back and look at things, there are alot of circumstances that people could call "selfish" when it comes to having children. Is it selfish to have children in same-sex marriages? I mean afterall you are denying the child a mother or father, right? Is is selfish to have children when you are poor? Is is selfish to have children if you are atheiest? I mean, there is always a circumstance where someone is going to view it as selfish. Heck, there are people out there that think even having children is selfish because our world is so horrible.


If you have love to give to a child, bringing a life into the world is never selfish imo!







iVillage Member
Registered: 02-01-2008
In reply to: midnite0709
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 1:05pm

There was a time in my life when I would have probably thought, you have two lovely children why can't you be happy with the blessings you have instead of dwelling on what you don't have?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-26-2007
In reply to: midnite0709
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 2:13pm

No you are not selfish.

Susan L.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2007
In reply to: midnite0709
Tue, 12-09-2008 - 7:13pm

Heck no you're not selfish!!

 


 


Susan V

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2007
In reply to: midnite0709
Wed, 12-10-2008 - 8:02pm
No your not selfish if your having a child for the right reasons! I have 3 boys and want a girl,I hope thats a good reason LOL!!


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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2008
In reply to: midnite0709
Tue, 12-16-2008 - 6:46pm

I don't think that giving "life" to a human being is being "selfish."


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2006
In reply to: midnite0709
Tue, 12-16-2008 - 7:18pm

Thank you..


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2006
In reply to: midnite0709
Thu, 12-18-2008 - 11:19am

It's a great reason!


I hope you get that girl!


I feel certain though any of us would be happy boy or girl.