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|Sun, 04-29-2007 - 12:36pm|
I am really struggling and need some advice or shared experiences to help me figure out what to do next.
I am 41 and have had two unsuccesful ivf cycles. Cycle #1 they couldn't reach my right ovary during ER, so they only got 8 eggs, 6 fertilized and 1 passed PGD, but BFN.
Cycle #2 they got to both ovaries, retrieved 13 eggs, 10 fertilized, but none passed PGD. We were devastated, but were really shocked when we met with our RE last week. He told us I have "much less" than a 5% chance of ever conceiving with my own eggs, mainly because of my age. He highly recommended an ED.
My husband has two grown children from his first marriage, so he wasn't into the ED idea. He said I already helped him raise two kids that were more his than mine, and he wants to be equal partners in creating our family. I think I agree, as I couldn't imagine using a SD if the problems were on his side.
My question is what to do next? I don't feel ready to give up. Should I give ivf one more try (our insurance has run out, so there is a financial decision too), should I try an alternative route like an herbalist or acupuncture, or is it time to give up ttc, and move to adoption?
I know first-hand thanks to my step kids that families are created many ways, but when do you know it is time to move on? I am so upset and confused. I could really use some words of wisdom. I want to keep fighting, but don't know if I am just in denial.
Thanks for listening,