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Mon, 02-23-2009 - 9:34pm
Hi! new here and really confused. first, how do I find out what the abbreviations stand for? Was married in Oct '08, and we are ttc for my 1st, his 2nd. How long should we try b4 going to see a specialist? My dr is an internist and does my yearly pap. Up to now, no issues whatso ever. Should I go to a OBGYN? get tests? etc? everyone just tells me to relax and let nature happen! How do you focus but yet not focus on something??? I don't know where to start really. Although I have just started charting this month. Any advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
stats: age 40 (will be 41 in April)
never been pregnant (been on bc since about age 20 yrs old)
husband is 48 (has 1 son, 22 yrsold)
in pretty good shape
been off bc patch since July
not big on eating vegetables but taking prenatal vit

Alex

Me 42,

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Registered: 04-08-2008
In reply to: demondee
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 11:24pm

Welcome!

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Registered: 05-28-2008
In reply to: demondee
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 11:39pm

Hi and welcome. I also started late and was on BCP forever. Like 20 years - it took me since June of last year to get my cycles to appear "somewhat" normal.

Does your insurance allow you to make an appt with an OB/GYN without a referral (mine doesn't so that is why I ask). I would start with an OB just tell them you are TTC and my doc actually told me to tell my new OB (seeing next week) that I'd been trying over 1 year. She said it would "speed things up". Technically we didn't start trying until around Nov. because I was anovulatory from the pill.

Anyway, I would get appts and get the basic testing of hormones done, and get the lines of communication started. My insurance doesn't cover anything fertility related but they do cover the tests if my primary phys requested them.

Good luck!







 BabyFruit Ticker

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Registered: 07-25-2008
In reply to: demondee
Wed, 02-25-2009 - 10:45pm
Welcome,
Beach Scene

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Registered: 11-18-2007
In reply to: demondee
Fri, 02-27-2009 - 10:49am

Hi and welcome to the board! Be sure to have your DH get a SA (sperm test) He did father a child 22 yrs ago but time can change his level of fertility also!! Yes run dont walk to the OB/GYN or better yet go and see an RE (reproductive endocrinologist) the RE specializes in fertility especially with your age a factor (sorry I dont sugar coat) Ask for some specific tests to see where you stand as far as your ovarian reserve. Cycle day 3 bloodwork consists of going to the OB/GYN on the 3rd day of you period and they will draw samples and test your 1) FSH levels (follicle stimulating hormone) 2) your prolactin (high levels can impeed getting PG) 3) progesterone 4) thyroid 5) and E2 levels (form of estrogen)

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Registered: 12-26-2007
In reply to: demondee
Fri, 02-27-2009 - 1:57pm
Well, Kim has said it all - so there's nothing more to add except welcome.

Susan L.

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Registered: 02-23-2009
In reply to: demondee
Sat, 02-28-2009 - 11:54am

Thanks you guys!! Your words of encouragement really help. I've never really followed "the rules" and tend to march to my own drum. Which has often left me feeling alone and out of sorts. All of my friends are married and many have kids. So, I don't really have anyone close who can relate to what I am going through. I am trying to educate myself but have to be cautious about getting obsessed or too focused (finally recovered from last year's wedding planning bonanza!). I am charting on Fertility Friend; it's strange at the age of 40 to finally get a clue to what is going on with my body!! I do get impatient, so waiting each month is hard. But thanks to your suggestions, I have made an appt with an OB (not until next month) and will ask about all the tests, etc- I think there is an RE in the practice. And with charting, my dh has been gently warned to get ready to go at it soon!

How do you feel about OPK's? I bought one yesterday since this coming week should be prime for fertility. Do you really have to not urinate for 4 hrs before?? I don't think I can do that! I have TBD (tiny bladder disorder :-))

Alex

Me 42,

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Registered: 08-21-2008
In reply to: demondee
Sun, 03-01-2009 - 9:38am
Welcome.