Coming from TTC after Miscarriage Board
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|Wed, 05-23-2007 - 2:23pm|
I have been on the TTC after miscarriage board, however, just found this message board which relates to me as well as I am 40 and TTC.
I miscarried about 2 weeks ago, first one. I really didn't expect that I would. I thought I would get pregnant and have a baby, never entertaining the thought of miscarriage. Didn't think it would happen to me. Found out I was pregnant right before my 40th birthday, and then miscarried at 12 weeks (found out through an ultrasound). It was devastating to have gone almost three months thinking I was pregant, and then to find out I wasn't (blighted ovum?). I was really worried about my "window of opportunity" due to being 40 years old. I heard much negativity about my age! Although my mother had me at age 44 (naturally).
My DH and I are like so many of you, with a full life enjoying travel, sports, camping etc etc. I never thought I wanted children, and then I met my DH close to 40 years of age. When I found out I was pregnant, I wasn't happy, I thought my full life was over...I couldn't have that glass of wine, go horseback riding...so on and so forth. Then after a while, I really wanted to have the baby, and realized that I could still do lots of stuff! Of course as I mentioned earlier I miscarried. My DH and I were both so sad. For a while, I kept thinking that it was me, and must have been my age. Everyone on the message board has been so supportive. I realized that I am not alone, and there are lots of women over 40 having babies. My mother was one of them when she had me at 44 years of age. I had the best childhood, she did so much with me.
I truly believe 40 is a great age to have a child. TTC again.