December Roll Call

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December Roll Call
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Fri, 11-30-2012 - 8:45pm

 Roll call is a place to chat and share. I'm hoping to see all of our friends stop in and say hello. Would love to hear from our friends that are "reading only: for now too.

Name, age, spouse and age

Cycle day

how are you trying? Natural, IUI, are you takig vitamins, herbs?

Anything else you would like to share.

Baby dust to all here!

Vickie

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Registered: 08-22-2012
Wed, 12-05-2012 - 8:21am

Oh poor Pinky!  I have pets and during mc kept thinking oh please not now.  They are getting a bit older and I worry about them at 13 years and they are my children (in addition to hubby, lol)   That might have been the blow that sent me over the edge.  But, they seem to be okay for now which is good.

I am so very sorry for you loss.  I understand.

So many have posted the TTC stress and I understand that also.  Boy do I understand.  Especially like another here, I have no children.  This past loss at eight weeks was my only pregnancy ever.  I try to come to terms, thinking I lost at eight weeks and had a very fast recovery and HCG dip to zero with a period at 4 weeks post mc.  I need not complain, it was quick and left me in a place where I can try again ...and quickly.This is how I deal...hopefully its a healthy way to think.  

It's so heartbreaking to hear all the stories and missed opportunities here, but at the same time...it is comforting knowing that we share something that we want so badly together.  It helped through my mc knowing I was not the only one.  It is common enough.  It wasn't something wrong with me - it just happens sometimes.

May all of us find peace in each other, our spouses, and knowing that there are people that care about us, our attempts, our failures, and whatever happens in the future for us all in here :)

Nina, mc at 8 weeks, October 29, 2012, mc at 4.5 weeks on January 12,  staying positive and third times's a charm???

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Wed, 12-05-2012 - 7:32am

 Ava, so glad to see you back here! I'm sorry you are still having trouble with the board. I too, miss the notifications. Maybe soon.. Yay for the doctor being so supportive. Glad to see that the tests came back without problems. Hoping you get great results for the others as well.  Don't feel guilty for thinking about your own hardships- we all have had a rough go at this and we all deserve some happiness and that little blessing to cuddle and love. Prayers that hubby has a safe return and you can get busy when he gets there! Hugs to you!

Vickie

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Wed, 12-05-2012 - 7:22am

 Annemarie, I am so sorry you lost your beloved Pinky. That is so hard to go though- my heart breaks for you. Hopefully you can relax and focus on yourself -you deserve it after all you just went through. Sending tons of + thoughts and prayers that you have a perfect cycle and get that miracle you so deserve. Hugs to you my friend.

Vickie

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Wed, 12-05-2012 - 3:11am

hi Krista, 

Well your the first person Ive had a chance to tell about this as dh is still away.  I cannot speak highly enough of  my obgyn, he was wonderful.  Very respectful and compassionate.  he actually was quite positive.  So far the outcomes today are:  I have lots of egg follicles on both ovaries, my progesterone apparently is good, so he is doing another kind of scan to check for other causes of the breakthrough bleeding in the earlier part of my cycle, and the long af.  My TSH test came back normal, My hormones have come back with good levels, apparently not perimenopausal yet, which was what I thought was happening.  My iron is very low so am now on a supplement as my level is only 12, I think this will help my energy levels too.  He said the temps on my chart post o are looking normal, but recommended I didn't rely on the temperature chart but use OPK's to know when I O.  He is doing a blood test to measure the viability of my eggs and fertility measurement, is it amh test?? So one week after O I do my blood test and straight after my next af I do this other scan to check for fibroids or if anything else might be causing the bleeding (sorry for tmi).  he said he had quite a few women my age ttcing, and totally took me seriously with no attitude or patronising at all.  The GP I saw when I got this referral was so dismissive of everything that I am speechless with joy at the difference in styles.

So am feeling much more normal about the whole thing, just looking forward to getting these tests done to know if my amh is OK and hopefully there is nothing serious causing the breakthrough bleeding, which is only sporadic most of the time and not every cycle.  Its a start anyway.

It was so good to speak to someone who this is their field of expertise.  I just reread my morning post to everyone, and I remembered feeling as if this was it for me and this dr would tell me sorry your eggs have all packed up and gone, or something!

DH comes back sat, hopefully I dont O before then, hoping its not as late as last cycle but not as early as cd14 either!!

Sorry this has turned again into an essay, and thanks for listening.

Ava

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Wed, 12-05-2012 - 12:27am

Hi Ava, it's so good to hear from you again!  I miss getting those e-mails about updates too--they made it so much easier to navigate the comments.  I hope your appt. went well today.  Can't wait to hear all about it!  Krista

Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

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Tue, 12-04-2012 - 9:04pm

Hi Girls, I have been away for a while as its been hard to get on the board and I don't receive any notifications of replies so I have to come in and search the site, which gets time consuming.  Sooooo glad to be able to say a big hello to you all.

I have had a quick read of the posts to try to catch up because it seems so much has happened over the last few months for us all.  and all I can say is there had better be a big bucketload of babydust about to descend upon us all shortly.

Today is my appointment with the obgyn, this is cycle 7 for me and its my first obgyn appt ever.  Not sure what to say except Im so stressed I feel very selfish and unable to think about anything except strategies to not go shy and embarressed about my age, and chances of success with ttc, Im 47 my dh is 45, we fell pg 2 years ago I feel we might be able to again, but I need some actual facts about where my actual cycle is.  Really scared I have left it too late feeling so vulnerable and thinking I have to face how to deal with information that might not be what I want to hear.  its scary.

Vickie, Krista, Nina, AnneMarie and Barbara - I can see all of you have had such journeys and I feel like I have no right to feel sad about mine, but I still do.

I wish all of you girls all the best, you so deserve it.

Just praying for the strength to deal with the outcome of today's appt.

Ava

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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 11:52pm

AnneMarie, I'm so sorry this past month was difficult for you.  The loss of a favorite pet is so traumatic:(  How are you doing now?  Having a house full of guests can be so exhausting and planning a retirement party too?  You deserve a rest!  I hope this month brings you unexpected blessings and joy!

Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 11:48pm

I completely understand where you are coming from Bonnie and AnneMarie.  TTC can become all-consuming, especially once we realize it isn't happening like we had thought it would!  My first child was conceived on our last round of injectibles with IUI after 1 1/2 years of trying with meds.  My body didn't react well to the injectibles and I had hives all over my torso.  The doctors all agreed I was allergic to the meds and that the cycle was a waste.  I gave up hope and started planning a trip to Hawaii to visit my brother and sister-in-law.  Low and behold, against all odds, and AFTER I stopped beliving it could happen, my son was conceived.  I think somehow, that fact that I gave up concentrating so much effort on conceiving, helped me to get pregnant.  Miracles can and do happen everyday!  Now...here I am again, "concentrating so much effort on conceiving"--I think I am ready to step back (next cycle:) ) and let whatever happens, happen.

Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers

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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 8:26pm

Annemarie 43, Dh 43 TTC almost 2 years naturally now.  Only 1 pregnancy that ended in m/c 2 years ago.

Currently CD5.

Hello ladies.  I am trying very hard to keep the faith, but it is very hard.  I didn't even TTC this month as I have had very hectic, dark days this past month.  I did lose my cat Pinky about 2 weeks ago, and I am so heartbroken without her.  I also had house guests and a huge retirement party for my mom that I was planning mixed in that time frame.  Everything was over yesterday when I took my sister to the airport, so now it is back to reality. 

It is very hard to face the fact that I may need to give up here.  I have no children, so it has been hard trying to find peace about it.  I look around at all the people that are happy that they have no children, but for me, well, it is not that easy. 

I hope we all end this year with positive things...and our dreams come true.

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Mon, 12-03-2012 - 3:05pm
Thanks, Vickie! When we decided to start a family a year ago, we really believed we would get pregnant easily. For two days during what turned out to be the chemical pregnancy, we were pretty excited. Since I've been unsuccessful, we've come to believe that it may not be in the cards for us, that I/we waited too long to start. We're okay with that, I think. LOL Sometimes we talk about "IF we were parents," we would do this or that... I'm with you; in the end, I hope we all get what we want. I shouldn't be talking like this since this month isn't over yet. We WILL get what we want!! xoxo