December Roll Call

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December Roll Call
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Fri, 11-30-2012 - 8:45pm

 Roll call is a place to chat and share. I'm hoping to see all of our friends stop in and say hello. Would love to hear from our friends that are "reading only: for now too.

Name, age, spouse and age

Cycle day

how are you trying? Natural, IUI, are you takig vitamins, herbs?

Anything else you would like to share.

Baby dust to all here!

Vickie

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Thu, 12-20-2012 - 9:54am

Hi Ava, I've been thinking about you a lot and wondering if you'd hit that magic day yetWink  Glad to see that it looks like you O'd four days ago, and now you are well into the 2WW!  It looks like you BD'd at the perfect time too.  So now a little break for you and DH--ha! ha!  FX for a golden egg and sticky baby!!

I am doing much better than usual in terms of Christmas preparations this year.  I am completely finished shopping AND have almost everything wrapped, including all the stocking stuffers!  That is HUGE for me, because I am usually up past 2a.m. on Christmas morning wrapping.  My goal this year is to be completely finished before Christmas Eve, so DH and I can really enjoy the day and evening with our kiddosSmile

FX for you!  Krista

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Tue, 12-18-2012 - 2:41am

Hi Krista,

Thanks for your kind thoughts.  STILL awaiting the O cross hairs to appear on my ff chart! pretty sure I had a positive OPK last Friday and Saturday but the line was slightly lighter than the control line I put it down as a positve and it seems to have correlated with the temp drop of O on sunday, but I dont think it will effect the chart.  Everything was going well except too much bding!!! lol and it looks like we didn't get it happening on the crucial day, I wont know for sure until the cross hairs appear, so am just as usual fx.  I am also really surprised by my cm fertile period, dh is away tonight and tomorrow night so really hoped I did actually O on Sunday or Monday, but as the cm is still happening Im a little bit concerned it might not have ??? Just trying to go with the flow !! feeling like Im in uncharted territory !! pardon the pun. lol.

Hope things with your sons diagnosis are coming together, I think that can be a long process but you sound like you are doing everything to help him with this.  I actually know a few adults who have come through this diagnosis as children and are fantastic people with great lives and good educations too.  They are really proud of their life journeys.

With your four you must be flat chat with christmas preparations, I have only one small and one big one and it seems overwhelming.  Hope it is all going well.

Ava

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Sat, 12-15-2012 - 12:02am

Oh Ava!  Lots of fx coming your waySmile  Your chart looks great--you have such a long fertile window!  I'm thinking this is your month!

Thinking of you!

Krista

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Fri, 12-14-2012 - 6:48pm

Hi Krista,

So not a long essay, and thank you for sharing.

I really understand.

this is a short post as my ds5 has a little friend over for a playdate.  So will come back to post later, also wanted to drop in and let you know, yesterday did an OPK and the line was almost but not quite as dark as the control line, fx it happens today.Smile

Ava

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Thu, 12-13-2012 - 10:04am

Thanks so much for your kind, insightful words Ava!  I appreciate your thoughtfulnessSmile  You are right that rational decisions don't always make the "best" decisions, especially when we have such deep rooted desires.  My struggle with continuing to TTC also has to do with our other children.  As you may know, I have four boys (6, 8, 10, and 13).  Our hands (and schedules) are definitely full and sometimes overflowing(!) just with trying to keep up with them, without even adding a baby into the mix.  When we found out I was pregnant last January, I was at first overwhelmed and then ecstatic, as I saw this as God's answer to my deep rooted desire for another baby.  When we told the boys at 10 weeks, they were over the moon and all they could do was talk about the baby and how much fun it would be to have another little one in the house.  I watched them with other people's babies and was so excited to see their eyes light up with joy as they interacted with them.  I eagerly anticipated seeing them with our little boy...When Will, passed away, the boys were heartbroken and immediately asked for another baby.  I was terrified, but the loss of the pregnancy left me with such a feeling of emptiness and longing that I felt could only be satisfied with TTC again.  My husband was more ambivilent.  He "rationally" said the odds were against us to have another healthy baby, we already have four healthy boys, he didn't want to risk losing me again, etc., etc.  But my desire to have closure with the loss of Will by completing our family with one more baby, won out and we began TTC.  I thought we'd get pregnant easily, but 8 months later, with one (and probably two) failed conceptions, I'm still not pregnant.  Over the summer, my oldest son was diagnosed with ADHD and we are having a whole host of problems dealing with him and his behavior.  We are working with a psychologist and psychiatrist to help and have seen some improvement, but we have a long road ahead of us.  So now, I don't know what to do.  I had originally decided that we would put it in God's hands and if we conceived before Will's due date (Oct. 5), it was meant to be; and if not, our family was complete.  I've stretched my original "deadline" to the end of the year, but here I am again.  On one hand, I think another baby would be wonderful for all the boys, especially my oldest, because he is SO happy around babies and toddlers--he just seems to come alive, if that makes sense.  One the other hand, we are really struggling to deal with his behavior at home and in social situations.  DH has voiced his feelings that we are "done".   But even with all that being said, that deep longing for a baby is still there.  I feel like with my boys, I was in "survival" mode.  With four boys under the age of 6, it was all I could do to get through the day!  But now, my youngest is in kindergarten and I was REALLY looking forward to sitting on the couch and playing with Will's tiny little toes and just completely enjoying the baby stage, while it was just the two of us at home.  So...I don't know what I'm going to do.  Maybe that emptiness will always be there and the tears will still start whenever I talk about Will or look at his sonogram profile in the picture frame on my bathroom counter, or maybe the healing will continue.  I just don't know what to do.

I'm so sorry this has turned into such a long essay!  I guess I just don't have anyone I can talk with about the "pros and cons" of TTC after 40!  If you made it this far...thanks for your listening ear!!  Krista

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Wed, 12-12-2012 - 9:15am

Hi Nina,

Sending lots of positive vibes your way too!

Ava

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Wed, 12-12-2012 - 9:13am

Hi Vickie, I think DH is seeing the upside of ttcing at the moment!

I couldnt see your chart later this evening but saw it earlier and your temps are still up and AF hasn't arrived, yaaay.  

I am sending you best wishes for your decision too Vickie.

Im feeling sad about you and Krista making this decision maybe Im being selfish.

fx for you to catch that golden egg this cycle too.

Ava

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Wed, 12-12-2012 - 9:07am

Hi Krista, thank you for looking at my chart,  I still find it hard to guage it.  Am still doing OPK's yesterday I got a faint line and then this morning it was darker, but not as dark as the test line, and the instructions show very clearly that the test line and the 2nd line have to be the same.  So it is still a negative, however tested again later this afternoon, because Im scared I'll miss it (!!) and the line was a bit fainter again.  I'll just have to keep testing. Im finding it hard to correlate my temperatures against the OPK's, think I'll just have to leave it to FF to work out.  Really hope DH's little guys do hang around and Im trying to work out a way without being specific to put the every second day thing to him as that makes total sense, cant believe I haven't put that together yet.  I haven't managed it yet, wish me luck!!

Sorry about AF showing up, she aint welcome here!   Im much older than you and my obgyn was not even slightly phased about me hoping to try again.  I know we are all really different in how our bodies are, but the good news is your eggs are still younger eggs than mine by a lot! And this is a big decision.  I hope Im not being too personal here,   I just think you shouldn't let this effort to ttc go, too early in your journey if you are not ready to, even though I completely understand the heartache that you have experienced would make you hesitant to invest too much more with this.  Its hard for our DH's they see our anguish when it goes pearshaped and feel the loss too I think in our pain, and I am sorry you feel he has made his mind up, because I know its an awful feeling when you feel you are doing something without their 100% committment emotionally to it.  My DH really stalled with ttcing for a 3rd earlier on, and now I am really struggling with his decision not to try then because it feels now, that this long down the track I might not be able to achieve a baby, which he would like now, whereas a couple of years ago this would not have been such a longshot.  In my really clumsy way Im trying to say, it is your decision, and of course he is key in it, but in my experience, your dreams wont fade away just because it seems the most rational course of action.  I really hope my speaking this way doesn't offend you, as I really respect and enjoy your whole way of being on this, and in here.  Anyway enough of the deepness!

Now back to me....just joking, lol, Laughing

Actually have no more to report except waiting for the +OPK

hope AF goes quickly. I will be absolutely glued to this board to find out how you go with this decision Krista, please keep us posted.  Best of luck

Ava

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Tue, 12-11-2012 - 9:37am

Ava- I'm LOL at your post. Krista and I just talked about having to multi task and "sneak" on and off here. I am 100% addicted to IV!  I also like the "all his Christmases  have come at once". haha Don't get worn down yet- O should be soon. Thanks for the birthday wishes!

Krista- so sorry AF found you but at least she didn't make you wait longer. I sent you an email earlier- weird how I mentioned the decision to be made before I read it here- you and I are in the same boat. Sending lots of HUGS

Vickie

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Tue, 12-11-2012 - 9:24am

 Ava, I have just now been able to post to the boards. I couldn't log on but at least I can post now. I hope you have gotten to read the 2ww thread. I have my updates there but I can can tell you here, I'm still BFN at 15 dpo so not hopeful at all.

I am glad to see hubby returned and it's looks like you may be O'ing soon. FX hubby can stay until O day. Keeping FX for you to have that golden egg this cycle!

Vickie

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