Do I dare to dream?

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Registered: 06-26-2004
Do I dare to dream?
Sat, 06-26-2004 - 9:00pm
Lovely Women,

I'm new to the group and so happy to find so much love, support and great information here. I'm 43, was pregnant in my 20's and have just begun to try again now. My fertility test results are good with the only blip being my post-ovulation phase being 10 days instead of 14. I'm seeing an excellent Chinese acupuncturist and taking the raw herb teas. My docs are optimistic.

The thing is, I sometimes feel as if I'm just asking for too much to hope for a baby at this stage in my life. I've finally gotten my career where I want it, my life is relaxed and easy, but I find myself embarrassed that I dare to dream of being a mother too . . . which means more to me than anything my career could give me.

Has anyone else ever felt this way?

I am also worried about the shorter cycle, I was always 28 days until only a few months ago. Has anyone heard of successful pregnancy even with this issue?

xo Dawn

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Registered: 11-30-2003
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 9:56am
Dawn: Gosh...when I read your note, I felt as if I could have written it myself, so I definitely feel very similar to you. My career is booming right now, I have a wonderful home that I share with a man I love and we have family & friends that we love and enjoy.

Sometimes I think I'm selfish to say...this isn't enough and I want to me a mother too. I've been trying to hit a balance between being thankful for the many blessings I have, while still recognizing having a family is something very important to me.

In terms of your post-ovulation phase, I hope the Chinese herbs work for you...I had great success with improvements in my cycle while I took the herbs. I was on them for 3 months and recently had to go off of them because we are trying IVF. Our IVF clinic does not allow Chinese medicinces. I know if the IVF isn't successful, we will go back to the TCM.

Wishing you lots of luck...please continue to dare to dream with me!!!


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Registered: 12-26-2003
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 12:44pm
Hi Dawn,

I do not see any reason why you shouldn't try to acheive your dream of a child. You are certainly heading in the right direction with the acupuncture & chinese herbs.

Anything we can do along the way to help we are here for you.

*****************Baby Dust coming to you!!!!******************

Lilypie Baby Days
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Registered: 06-26-2004
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 10:10pm
Dear Margie,

It's so good to know I'm not alone. Somehow, I feel accepted as a woman and I can see how I'd held that away from myself . . . as if I didn't deserve to feel like a woman (or a mother) because I'm successful in the "man's" world. Your message brought tears of relief, thank you.

I'm sending you much, much love for your IVF. Please let me know how you are doing.

I love my acupuncturist and will keep with the herbs . . . I feel very positive!

xo Dawn

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Registered: 06-26-2004
Sun, 06-27-2004 - 10:13pm
Dear Lisa,

Thank you for the baby dust! Your support feels so good to me.

How are you doing with your baby inviting? I'm sending you lots of love.

xo Dawn

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Mon, 06-28-2004 - 8:55am
I kinda feel the same way....only in my case, it's that I didn't meet my mate until I was 35! So it wasn't that I even really had the chance to have a baby when I was younger. SO I ask myself all the time, if I wasn't supposed to meet my hubby until late, then why shouldn't it follow that I can have a baby late.

I don't think it's wrong to want this - so yeah, dream. Dream big.

I am!