do you also have younger children?

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Registered: 10-30-2004
do you also have younger children?
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 5:18pm


Okay, okay so I realize this is a REALLY personal question for a visiter-to-your-board to be asking, so here's alittle background . . . I'm 29 and pregnant with number 4. We feel quite strongly that this will be our last pregnancy & my DH plans to get a vasectomy this summer. BUT, I'm worried that I may desperately want more kids later on (I could still be fertile for 10-15 years). Which raises my question to you -- do you have younger children and are ttc again now after thinking you were "done"?

I would really value any input you have about what your child-spacing plans were (say in your 20's) and are now.

Thanks so much,


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Registered: 06-24-2004
Sun, 03-19-2006 - 3:18pm

Going through this right now really, I am 43 DH is 48 (only my 2nd post to the board BTW) we did IVF for our son. We both thought up to a week ago that he would be our only, DH has a DD who is 18. When we had to write the letter of instruction of what to do with our embryos, it made us stop to think! We haven't made up our minds yet but if you had asked 2-3 months ago I would have said we were not having any more minds made up!

Edited 3/19/2006 4:18 pm ET by lucy8691

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Registered: 04-05-2003
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 3:53pm
I'm just a lurker but have posted here many years ago. IF YOU HAVE ANY DOUBTS, DON'T DO ANYTHING PERMANENT!! My DH has always said we had enough kids. He had Vasectomy in 1990. I had him get it reversed in 1991. Then when I was 40 I thought it was time to quit having kids. So, I got my tubes tied in 1997. Well, I had it reversed in 1998. It didn't work and we moved on to all kinds of fertility treatments for the next 6 years. It has been an eye opening experience for both of us. I have 8 children ages 32 to 3 y/o. My life has been nothing but a blessing and my family is wonderful. I wouldn't change it for the world (except maybe to add to it :) Good luck to you and remember that life changes all the time. Karen