The Fantasy of Fertility

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The Fantasy of Fertility
Thu, 09-26-2013 - 2:00pm

I wanted to pass along this article from the NY Times.  The authors have both struggled with infertility, gone through numerous treatments and dealing with the decision on whether to continue to try: 

But what they’re selling is packaged in hope and sold to customers who are at their wits’ end, desperate and vulnerable. Once inside the surreal world of reproductive medicine, there is no obvious off-ramp; you keep at it as long as your bank account, health insurance or sanity holds out.

It’s no wonder that, fueled by magical thinking, the glorification of parenthood and a cultural narrative that relentlessly endorses assisted reproductive technology, those of us going through treatments often turn into “fertility junkies.” Even among the patient-led infertility community, the prevailing belief is that those who walk away from treatments without a baby are simply not strong enough to run the gantlet of artificial conception. Those who quit are, in a word, weak.

As a result, both of us pursued increasingly invasive and often experimental interventions, many of whose long-term health risks are still largely unknown.

Now we know better. Ending our treatments was one of the bravest decisions we ever made, and we did it to preserve what little remained of our shattered selves, our strained relationships and our depleted bank accounts. No longer under the spell of the industry’s seductive powers, we study its marketing tactics with eagle eyes, and understand how, like McDonald’s, the fertility industry works to keep people coming back for more.

Read more: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/09/12/opinion/selling-the-fantasy-of-fertility.html?_r=0

I know we've had members on the boards in the past that have struggled with this decision.   Have you put a limit on how long you can sanely TTC?