First invitro appt this week, questions.

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First invitro appt this week, questions.
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Mon, 05-31-2010 - 8:18am

Greetings board members :) I used to be all over ivillage boards when my kids were younger. They are now 13 and 15, and as I come back here to this awesome place, I'm a little confused by the new boards :(


Anyway, here's my story, I hope some of you can relate or help answer questions! My first husband died when my children were 4 and 6. I remarried last year to a man who has no children and would love some. Personally, I've always wanted more and have been so excited to try :) Well, things haven't been as easy as when I was in my 20s, obviously. My doctor has done four IUI procedures with clomid ranging up to 100 mg and those shots as well, but no luck :( My first visit with a new specialist is this week to talk about invitro. I am SO AFRAID that he will laugh me right out of the office or talk immediately about donor eggs. I'm not sure how I feel about that. Is that my only option? Should I give it all up now? Not sure. Thanks in advance for any comments :)


Becky - mom to dd 15 and ds 13
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Mon, 05-31-2010 - 9:37am
Hi, Becky! Welcome to the board. A few of us (myself included) have gone through IVF and/or donor eggs, some with great success. Good luck at the doc's -- let us know what you find out. Definitely don't give up! How old are you, if I may ask?

Susan CB



TTC #1 at age (gulp) 42

June 2008: m/c

April 2010: IVF #1 -- chemical pregnancy

June 2010: starting IVF #2 with microflare protocol


Susan CB

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Registered: 01-27-2009
Mon, 05-31-2010 - 12:14pm

hi, Becky,
Be brave! Don't be scared!
I just turned 43. Went to a great RE. We did tests. Looked gloomy doomy, but he was all in for one round of IVF. Did the most aggressive treatment, and nothing! So, I found out where I stand and am moving on to donor eggs. Some others, however, have more success. Each person is different. My advice is --if you insurance covers it, you have to at least do one round. After that, you will hopefully know your chances and how to proceed. I wouldn't go to a doctor that would not let you do at least one round of IVF. You never know...

hope that helps, - martha

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Mon, 05-31-2010 - 5:56pm
Welcome Katey! I agree with Martha, you doctor should at least go one round of IVF with you before going to DE. Having said that, when I miscarried last year and then talked with my doctor about TTC again, (that baby was a surprise) he recommended going straight to IVF with DE as my chances of success would be that much greater. For us that really wasn't an option, so we have chosen to just keep trying naturally. I guess it depends on what you want to do. Your chances might be better with DE, but it is more costly and of course the whole emotional side of it. If you are still in your early 40s, then I would say to try at least one month with your own eggs and see how well it goes and then take it from there. I hope you get a really supportive doctor, that alone can make such a huge difference.

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Registered: 04-18-2003
Mon, 05-31-2010 - 6:16pm
Thanks everyone! I'm in the right place here :) I'm so grateful for your comments and cherish each one! Someone asked my age - I'm 44. I totally agree that I should go at least one round with my own eggs before using donor ones. I hope that is what the dr suggests Wednesday. Keep the comments coming :)
Becky - mom to
Becky - mom to dd 15 and ds 13
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Registered: 08-19-2008
Thu, 06-03-2010 - 9:57pm

Hi Becky and welcome to the board!