a fond farewell (not BFP-related)

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-07-2008
a fond farewell (not BFP-related)
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 6:29am

Hi Ladies,

I want to take a moment to thank you all for the support & information I've gotten from this board over the last 18 months. I've been lurking a lot and participating whenever I thought I had some insight or something of value to contribute. I love the way this group is so positive and always there for each other.

I'm finding, though, that I really just can't handle the whole TTC thing any longer and I've decided to give up. 18 months of trying, 2 m/c's, living my life in two-week increments, and the constant disappointment every month has become too much. I know that many of you have been through much, much worse and have remained positive and sane, and for that you have my utmost respect and admiration. I just know that you'll be rewarded with beautiful babies for your perseverance and positive energy.

I've asked iVillage to delete my membership in the hopes that it will discourage me from checking in everyday. While this group is a very positive thing for most normal folks, I am finding that it has kept me too focused on my body and on TTC, and the roller coaster every month is taking its toll on my marriage and my sanity. I hope you all can understand.

I wish every single one of you a BFP, happy healthy pregnancies, and beautiful babies. Thanks for being here when I needed you.

Baby dust to all of you!


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2007
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 8:20am

Well, if you've decided to quit TTC my guess is you'll probably end up w/ a BFP.



Susan V

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-26-2007
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 9:58am
Good luck Darcy.

Susan L.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-22-2008
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 10:15am

I hope this brings you needed peace Darcy. I, too, want to try to let go of the constant obsessing; its probably just not healthy. I do agree with Susan though, so many times it seems you hear stories about women who give up, or decide to adopt, and bam, there they are bfp. Best of luck to you.



iVillage Member
Registered: 07-15-2005
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 10:27am

Darcy, I completely understand about what TTC does to your life, body and marriage. It really does take a toll and there has to come a point where you say "enough already" and

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-01-2008
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 11:23am
I understand you completely Darcy. Best of luck on your iVillage withdrawal:-) I hope you get a surprise BFP anyway.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-28-2008
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 11:47am

Brenda took the words out of my mouth, I was just going to say the same thing.

Good luck to you and good wishes for whatever comes your way.

 BabyFruit Ticker

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2005
Thu, 02-05-2009 - 1:01pm


Only you knw when it is over for you. If you know, then you know.

Best of luck and best wishes for happiness in your future endeavours!


iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2007
Fri, 02-06-2009 - 2:45pm


My prayers are with you and your DH. I do understand. May you find peace and joy. Blessing to you in your journey.

Suzanne happy wife to Chris

Furmommy to Cheyenne & Rocky

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2007
Fri, 02-06-2009 - 6:57pm
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2007
Fri, 02-06-2009 - 11:42pm

Peace and many blessings to you & Dh !