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|Wed, 05-23-2007 - 10:46pm|
Hi. This is the first time I've ever posted to a message board, and am really comforted to be able to read about everyone's experiences. I'm 40 and trying for my first baby. Miscarried 13 months ago at 6 weeks, then again in November and February (VERY early on).
My main frustration is with my RE who doesn't seem to be interested in investigating the miscarriages given my age. The first time my husband and I went in she pushed IVF strongly, and when we didn't want to do it right off the bat, she didn't pursue much else except offer clomid. I am about to start my third round of clomid (miscarried the first time, didn't conceive the second). Had to ask for thyroid testing (found I was hypo, with high levels of thyroid antibodies). My TSH has lowered to a normal range, but now my BBT has recently shot up abnormally high for me and I'm wondering if I've swung into hyper... Only on this third round of clomid are they measuring my endometrial lining midcycle to check for thinning. I feel like I have to ask for everything, and because I ask so many questions, they treat me like I'm a pain in the butt! I've consulted with another specialist, but he was even worse--only used acronyms throughout our whole conversation and big time scare tactics. I have appointments with two other specialists, but not until June and Sept. Time is always on me...
I'm so envious when I read of women who have these great RE's who seem to be partners in their care. I rarely talk to my doctor, and instead hear from the nurse who doesn't seem to know what charting is....?! You can only imagine how they looked at me when I told them I've also been seeing an acupunturist. Sometimes I feel like my treatment is proscribed by the conservative midwestern city values where I live. I know that stress is my enemy, but I feel stressed all the time, because I feel like I'm relying on the internet for all my information rather than my doctor.
I've had FSH and Estradiol measured, both were good. 21 day Progesterone was between 13-15, which seems low to me, but dr. thinks it's fine. Follicles looked good beginning of my last cycle. Should I be asking for other tests or just accept that all three miscarriages were chromosomal problems and move on to IVF? And if so, how do I know that a pregnancy will take then? We don't have money to spend on IVF (not covered on insurance), so we can't do multiple rounds... Any thoughts? Sorry to ramble on.... I'm not in denial about my age and my chances, but I want to rule out any other problems before plunking down tens of thousands of dollars I don't have on IVF. Thanks! And best of luck to all of you!!!