Frustrated TTC at 42... anyone else???

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Frustrated TTC at 42... anyone else???
Sat, 03-12-2005 - 7:33pm

I'm so frustrated! I'm going to be 42 in May and we are trying to conceive. I had a miscarriage last June (4 weeks preg.) and one the previous June (8 weeks preg.).

I thought I was pregnant last week but got my damn period on Monday. I guess I'm just looking to talk to anyone else in the same boat. We've been trying for 2 months now.


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Registered: 11-22-2003
Sun, 03-13-2005 - 9:03pm
Hi, I can understand your frustration we've been trying for 13 months now although some months not as hard as others. I'm a couple of years older than you I turned 44 in Dec so I wasn't thinking it was going to easy. I found out I was pregnant 2 months before my 40th birthday but I lost the baby at 16 weeks the doctor wasn't sure why I miscarried. So I changed doctor's and tried again I was pregnant again 6 months later and delivered a beautiful baby boy at 41. I've been pregnant twice in my 40's so I thought why not 3 times. I'm using some help this time i'm on my second round of clomid 100mg to try to jump start things. I too thought for sure last month was my lucky month my period was 4 days late but it was not to be so i'll try again. Best of luck to you.
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Registered: 09-16-2004
Mon, 03-14-2005 - 2:37pm

I am also going to be 42 in May! My DH just had a vasectomy reversal in January and he is going for his first SA this week. So we have a double challenge on our hands with him having a VR and also with me being challenged in the age department! Ha! I sometimes wonder if I'm even going to be able to conceive if he does come back with a good report! My body just isn't what it used to be, although my doctor said I had good ovarian reserve according to a blood test a few months ago.

Good luck to you, I certainly know how frustrating this process is and we have hardly even begun it yet!

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Sat, 03-19-2005 - 12:46am
I too will turn 42 in May , had a m/c in July 2004, and have been TTC ever since. Have had 3 IUI's - 2 w/ clomid, 1 with injectibles. Took this month off and decided to try one more IUI in April. We had decided after the m/c that we would try until my birthday, and then if it didn't happen, that's that for us. I can empathize with your frustration - for the past 3 months I was convinced that I was pregnant - but wasn't. We are lucky, we have one miracle son - 2 yrs. and 3 mos. Good luck! Please keep us posted.
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Registered: 03-24-2005
Thu, 03-24-2005 - 6:01pm
Hey I agree totally with you my husband and I have been trying now for almost 2 yrs and with my body changing and not knowing if I ovulate every month with being at age 43. I sometinmes think that it isn't in the cards. I already have 4 other children but would love the chance to have one with my new husband. My other children do not live with us because of mistakes that I have made and all I want is a second chance.
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Registered: 06-25-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 11:06am
I hear you.I am at the point where I am about to just give in,but for my husbands sake,I am not.My frustration comes in the form of my family who rubs it in my face that I am too old to want kids.Dont let your frustration prevent you from TTCing.
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Registered: 05-22-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 9:32pm


I'm glad you're following your heart and pursuing your dream to have kids. All of us here want kids and can surely testify that this dream has no time limitations.

I'm 44 and in peri-menopause since I was 42, two years after giving birth to my only daughter at age 40. I've decided to go with donor egg/sperm (I'm single). There are, of course, pitfalls to this idea but, aside from adoption, this is my only (expensive!) alternative to building my family. At least this way, my kids will be "biologically related", and the future ones genetically to each other, and I can raise them from day one.

I didn't see any posts related to this option so thought it might be a conversation-starter.


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Registered: 04-01-2003
Sat, 04-09-2005 - 1:25am
I was glad to read your post. I am getting married in June and my future husband is going to have a VR. I know that it will be a challenge with both my age (42) and his VR.
When i went to the dr for my annual pap my dr immediately referred me to a clinic in a larger town and brought up egg donation etc... I am not sure what to do, i hate to have him have the VR if it isnt a possiblity we can get pg but i have no reason to believe that i wouldnt get pg either. What tests did you have done??? I had also wondered about invitro rather using a needle to get the sperm and inseminating me.. dont know if it would be cost efficient though???
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Registered: 02-05-2004
Tue, 04-12-2005 - 7:17pm

I'm 42 (43 next week). I used to post here quite a bit last year but when I moved on to IVF, I now spend most of my time over on the IVF Support, Advice and Friends board.
I'm very frustrated,odds are that DH and I won't get pg with my eggs. Today I just had my 2nd IVF cycle cancelled. I only produced 2 mature follicles while being on max stims.. RE Office requires at least 4 mature follicles before doing the egg retrieval. I'm not sure if I'll be able to try a third time. Several of the Dr's in the RE office were against me trying a second time after the 1st cancellation, but my RE ok'd a 2nd attempt. This is frustrating because DH and I waited 6months until I could get on his insurance which covers IVF. It may have been 6 months too long. I've been looking into DE's, but we're not sure if that is for us...
Although my IVF was cancelled I'm expected to have IUIs thursday and friday. Since I had a left tube hydrosalpinx removed last cycle, I'm praying that we'll be able to get pg from the IUI.

I've been thru the whole Infertility workup..were there specific questions you have?


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Registered: 05-05-2005
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 9:41pm

Good for you that your doctor said you had good ovarian reserve. Out of curiosity, do you rememebr what your numbers were for FSH and Estradiol?


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Registered: 05-05-2005
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 9:44pm

Hi there,

I asked my doctor if he would suggest clomid for me but he said it probably wouldn't help if I was experiencing diminishing ovarian reserve. Can you tell me what your doctor's reasoning was for putting you on the clomid. Maybe I need to speak to another doctor.