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Thu, 03-02-2006 - 3:19am

Hello. I will reiterate another’s words by saying – I am new here.

I am 43, my husband is 32. I have 2 children from a previous marriage, my husband has never had children and wants them desperately. I have already had 2 miscarriages in the last year. I took Clomid and did everything necessary, BBT, etc. to get pregnant. My dr said I had very little chance to conceive. My husband keeps telling me, the one thing left that will make him happy is to have his own child. I am so scared and confused about all the statistics of “older” women having high risks of birth defects (1st child born congenital amputee @ age 30).

After reading many of the messages posted here. Between trying to relax and just letting it happen, researching, confusion & uncertainty of “multiples” through IVF and fertility pills/shots, birth defects and many many tears, I just do not know which way to turn.

I knew I was not the only one in this situation but am grateful, after reading everyone’s posted messages that support and understanding does exist.

My prayers and wishes are with everyone out there, at this or any stage in our life, trying to bring a miracle into this world.

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Registered: 02-21-2006
In reply to: momagn62
Thu, 03-02-2006 - 11:46am
I wish you the very best of luck. Positive thinking is our best bet, I know the stats don't help us a bit do they?!!! And you are so right....you are NOT alone. We can all lean on each other and pray for our own magical moment.
Dawn

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Registered: 03-02-2006
In reply to: momagn62
Sun, 03-05-2006 - 8:00am

Thank you, Dawn, for your words of encouragement.

I will continue reading everyone's posts here and keep pursuing avenues of conception.

I did find a website called 'Selmedica'. However, I read the rip-off reports regarding the company as well. But at this stage of the game I am almost willing to try anything. I do hope I can find that 'ancient chinese secret' soon.

JP

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Registered: 08-09-2004
In reply to: momagn62
Tue, 03-21-2006 - 10:12am

Have you considered using an egg donor? I might do this, since if I can't conceive, at least my husband would be able to have a biological child. The child would have a genetic link to at least one of us. Its not ideal for me, but we are also not opposed to it. I have a lady friend who was an egg donor, and she helped many infertile couples have children. Also, I didn't understand from your post whether you had already tried IVF and IUI. You said you had taken clomid, but I wasn't sure if you'd already tried IVF/IUI. There still may be a chance you could get pregnant w/your own eggs.