Here is my story

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Registered: 09-28-2006
Here is my story
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 1:58pm

Hi there,

I've been lurking here for months and have really enjoyed your posts - this board has made me feel that I'm not alone in the quest for baby after 40. I am finally posting to let you know that you should not give up - even if your doctor tells you the odds are against you.

I have 3 sons - 8,6 and 4 and have been trying for 3 years to have a 4th. Had 2 miscarriages in 2003 nand 2004 and since then no pregnancy. Had no problem getting pregnant with earlier pregnancies but now could not get pregnant. I went to RE and after some testing was told that FSH at 16.8 indicated that my eggs were done and IUI would not be an option but only with egg donation could he help us. This all happened Sept 1 - 28 days ago. I came home and was fine with that - we were blessed with 3 beautiful children so I gave all my baby through size 5 clothes and maternity clothes to goodwill. Well, guess what ? I am pregnant!!! My boobs were sore a week ago so I decided to do a pregnancy test - left over from days of trying - and it was positive. Had hcg done and levels are more than doubling so now wait a couple of weeks and go in for heart beat ultrasound at 6 weeks. You always hear about stories like this - that when you stop trying - that is when you get pregnant - I guess it is true. I didn't even think I was stressed about conceiving but maybe I was. Once the pressure was off - boom! I'm pregnant.

I was convinced my baby-making days were over but I guess I was wrong - and so was RE. So, don't give up all hope if you have elevated FSH - I'm living proof that it can still happen. I'll cross my fingers that this one sticks but at least I know I can still get pregnant. Hope that helps a bit and gives you some hope.


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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 3:24pm

Congratulations to you and thanks for sharing !

I firmly believe that stress is a great inhibitor to pg. I got pg naturally at 39.5 w/o trying but m/c early. I then went to an RE due to my "old age" at 40 and tried an IUI..didn't work. I then was ready to try another and found out that i had follies on the side where I don't have a tube and none on my good side. Was told I wouldn't do the IUI and we would try again next month. Went home and BD and forgot about it. Told people it wouldn't be happening that month....well, it did but I m/c at 7 weeks. I then spent 30K on IVF. Got a total of 34 mature eggs. Put 4- 8 celled back in the first time and 6-8 celled the second time. BFN both now it's just me, DH and the morning thermometer and lots of faith.

I truly believe that one day i will post on this board the exact same miracle that you just did. It's just going to be in God's timing.........

Keep us posted on how you're doing and congrats again !

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Registered: 11-25-2005
Thu, 09-28-2006 - 9:57pm

Congratulations, Mel. What a great story of encouragement for us.




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Registered: 09-05-2006
Sun, 10-01-2006 - 12:44pm

Hi Mel,

I too have been lurking about and finally just posted on the Infertility board.

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Registered: 07-29-2003
Mon, 10-09-2006 - 4:27pm
There REALLY needs to be an icon with dancing up and down and trumpets playing and streamers streaming, cuz that is what is happening inside when I read your story! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! Wow.
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Mon, 10-09-2006 - 4:51pm


My story(3 yrs ago) is very similar to yours. I was 42 at the time and was ttc#3. I had had my share of miscarriages as well. In Feb, 2003 my fsh was 16. I was also told to hang it up, or to do donor egg invitro. Well...I was depressed and threw in the towel. Guess what!! That was the cycle I conceived my now almost 3 yr old dd. I think not concentrating on ttc and giving up for me made me relax and conceive. My pg, labor and child were all perfect!


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Sun, 10-15-2006 - 10:31am
many, many congratulations mel! thank you for posting this. i was starting to get discouraged and feeling like i am a bad person for wanting #4 when i have three great kids. but, it doesn't stop the wanting and i am highly stressed about it not happening as fast as it did with the other three. i will try to relax and hope it works for me like it did you.
send some of your baby dust this way, would ya'? Thanks and many, many best wishes for a strong hearbeat!