How is everyone doing?

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How is everyone doing?
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Fri, 03-15-2013 - 2:38pm

Please check in and give us an update!

How has the weather been in your area?  Still any snow on the ground or are you finally warming up a little?

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Tue, 05-07-2013 - 6:33pm

Don't worry about it. This stuff can get you down because everybody loves saying negative stuff about age. I get the donor egg stuff, too. You have until you're 50 to do donor eggs, so use your own fertility now. If you want to do donor eggs at 46, 47, 48 then you will, but just stress that right now, you're trying to use the last of yours. It's logical and doctors seems to get that.

As for AMH, it's just another test. I stimulated 6 eggs and I'm a "poor responder". A low AMH just means you don't have a lot of eggs in the pipeline  -- which you already knew. Other than that, that's all it tells you. It doesn't tell you egg quality or how many are left. And it certainly doesn't mean you won't respond to fertility drugs.

It is a lot harder to get pregnant over 40, but honestly, it's harder getting pregnant after 30 and 35. There are no guarantees with anything.

I think you have to figure out when you're done. I said I would never do IVF, and now I'm here doing it because I never wanted that regret of, "What if I had tried it? Maybe it would have worked." I didn't know i'd feel that way a year ago, but I do now. And in five or 10 years from now, I would have regretted i hadn't tried it. Luckily we had the money (and still waiting for results!)

Good luck on your journey, Ava!

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Fri, 04-19-2013 - 4:11pm
No worries, Ava, that's what we are here for. (((HUGS)))

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Fri, 04-19-2013 - 9:33am

Hi Imatarb, Candy, Vickie and Melissa!  wow.

I have been away for ages just plodding along ttc naturally until quite recently.

Just wanted to congratulate both Imatarb and Candy on getting good results with their FS.

I have just had a few encounters myself and have been terrorised and humiliated by the treatment!  

Candy, good on you for pushing, I hope this doctor does put the effort in and finds another protocol for you.

My AMH is <1 and the two clinics I have visited have both refused to look at ICSI or IVF based on this (and my age).  I still have follicles forming on both ovaries (at least on the last look) but Im finding the medical profession very unwilling to consider anything except donor eggs basically telling me that ICSI and IVF would be a waste of money (and they wont do it for ladies over 42) and that the results would be no different to well timed intercourse.  I am going back for another appointment more bloods and ultrasound to hopefully go on a Ovulation timing program and hopefully a round of IUI, just to get my man's fella's to the egg (as he has no issues), but they were very negative about the outcome purely based on age, amh and unknown egg quality. 

Im just trying to decide if I want to invest more energy into following this or if its time to put this dream to bed.  Im not sure if Im fatigued from not really getting much help from the medical profession and feeling almost ridiculous for trying to follow this dream or if maybe I am starting to feel like I need to move on.

Im in Limbo with this, I have only met one person who thought I had a shot at this, and he was an obgyn not an FS.  Maybe Im being silly and should call it a day?

Sorry I just jumped in and blurted all this out, Vicky and Melissa I hope you are both going well, I have really missed the lively boards of old.  Hope you are happy and that life is treating you well.  Imatarb and Candy I hope my post hasnt been too much of a downer.  I really didn't mean to write all this on my first post back!

Ava

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Thu, 04-18-2013 - 5:16pm
I also forgot to mention that I went to two new REs and they both were not thrilled with my numbers and my age. In fact, one in San Francisco who comes well-recommended basically told me that my chances were less than 1 percent, that I'm a poor responder, I'm old and that I would have the same luck if I just tried on my own with my husband -- and that it was a waste of money. For some reason I was wildly optimistic that day and felt great, because usually that kind of pessimism gets me down. I just smiled and said, "I think we'd still like to try." "You're going to do this whether or not I agree to this, aren't you?" I nodded and smiled. "Yes. This is the last shot." He just kept staring at me. And I said, "So you're not going to do the sonogram?" He sighs. "OK, but it's not likely to change anything." So we go into the room, he looks at the lining-- and then is looking at my antral follicles which number around 4-5 on each ovary. "Hmmph," he says. "You can sit up now." The doctor is now staring at me, hand on his chin. He looks at my chart, then at me smiling. "This is odd," he says and then does some more hmmphing. "According to your antral follicle count, you should have a better response. We would have to think of a better protocol." "Does this mean you'll do it?" I ask. He smiles. "OK. There's a chance this could work. But I can't get your hopes up, there's a lot you're up against here." "It's OK," I said. "It's because I'm a lot younger on the inside." So unless you've been thoroughly examined, those doctors don't know enough about you to say anything with certainty. Good luck, everyone!
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Wed, 04-17-2013 - 10:44am

Doing well here. Started stims this past Sunday for first IUI cycle. 75 Bravelle, 75 Menopur twice daily, and 6 units of Lupron nightly added. Also taking 2mg of Estradiol daily, along with DHEA and prenatal vitamin. Go in for sono this Friday to see where we stand.....

Me: 44 G1P1: my 'baby' is now 14 years old :)

DB: 46 no issues whatsoever, (actually was 'retired' former sperm donor!)

Fingers crossed for a BFP at the end of this journey!

Cool

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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 1:23pm
I'm sorry you are having so much trouble, Vickie :( It takes a few minutes for the login to sync up with the boards. It might appear that it didn't go through at first, just give it a minute or two and hit refresh if you don't see your name appear at the top. Please let me know if that helps or not.

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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 11:46am

Candy, it's really good to hear from you and I love that you are being proactive. Hoping only great results for you and I will try to check for updates often. 

Vickie

My Ovulation Chart <img      

  

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Wed, 03-20-2013 - 11:41am

Hi Melissa! Sorry for not checking in but I still can't log in from IE. I am using Google Chrome right now and it took me 12 tries to successfully log in and stay logged in. As I try to type this it keeps erasing, causing me to start over. I hope this all gets resolved soon because I sure miss being here and I miss my gals. As for me, I'm okay. I have gotten addicted to the Jodi Arias trial and watch it more than I should but with the rainy weather we have had here in GA there's not much else to do. It rained 17 inches within 9 days and we have more on the way. I have gotten stuck in my own yard more than once! Hope everyone else is well and hope to hear from you all soon. Hugs and Love to all

Vickie

My Ovulation Chart <img      

  

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Sat, 03-16-2013 - 2:46pm

Hi, all!

Me: Almost 43

DH: Just turned 35

Trying: 18 months.

IUIs: 6

Progress: Very expensive negative pregnancy tests and absolutely nothing else

FSH: 8.3

AMH: 0.39

It's getting a bit frustrating, but I decided to switch REs because she refused to do IVF without donor eggs and a "successful outcome." I had heard of clinics not wanting to help women over 37 have their own children because they want to keep their numbers up and apparently this seemed to be the case. So the new RE looked over my protocols and told me to go on DHEA (I'm also on prenatals, Vitamin D and 500 mg of Metformin) and that my previous RE didn't use the most effective methods -- meaning she could have been more aggressive. He did say that because my tubes were open and normal that IVF may not be the solution for me, especially if I respond poorly to ovulation stimulation.(I would have felt a little better about the process if he could have found my right ovary on the sonogram! Plenty of techs have. Ah, doctors!)

There is a real push for donor eggs, to which I told him and my previous RE, "I have several years to make that decision. These are the last years of *my fertility* and I want to use them."

I'm not sure if this will lead to a baby, but it would be nice if it did. Really hoping this works!

Wish all of you the best of luck and be your own advocate!

c.