I'm a newbie

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Registered: 05-15-2007
I'm a newbie
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 1:33pm

Hi - this is my first post to a message board but I wanted to reach out to others who I feel are in the same place as I am. I recently miscarried when I was 7 1/2 weeks along. Oh and by the way I'm 43. I went in for my first appointment and the ultrasound showed my little one didn't have a heartbeat. I was still getting used to the idea of being pregnant since this was an accident. The miscarriage was much harder than I thought it would be. I'm trying to find the strength to start again once I have the doctors ok, but I'm terrified given my age that it will happen again.

If anyone has any advise on how to move forward, I'd love to hear from you.

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 4:03pm



I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Registered: 05-15-2007
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 4:13pm
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement and advice. I had my son when I was 36 without complication. So it has been 8 years since I was pregnant. In a way it is comforting to know that I can conceive at 43. Now I need to find the courage to jump back in and try again.
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Registered: 03-01-2004
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 5:07pm

I'm 41, have had 4 m/c and one DS (2.5 years old). The next to last m/c was as you described, we really thought we were good to go, then no heartbeat.

I was bummed for awhile. Still am, I guess. But I figure there was a reason it didn't develop, so it was for the better.

That's a hard thing to do, and I'm sorry you had to go through it too... but you will be able to move on.



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Registered: 05-15-2007
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 5:24pm
Thank you Lydia. Sorry that you have had to go through so many M/C's. I can't imagine how strong you've become from the experiences. It's nice to know there are people out there who have been through something similar.
Hugs to you!
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Registered: 11-04-2006
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 6:48pm
Hi Panootie, I am so sorry about your m/c.

Emily (Ada's maman since 3/14/04)

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Registered: 05-15-2007
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 7:06pm
Thank you Emily. I've gotten very supportive words of encouragement and understanding from everyone who has responded. This board is a God-send. And thanks for the information on the other boards as well. I will take a peak at them to.
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Registered: 02-28-2007
Wed, 05-16-2007 - 7:57pm

Hi there,

I am so sorry for your loss. I would just advise that you take time to recuperate physically AND mentally, and if you decide this is something you'd like to pursue, go ahead thinking positively. Unfortunately, there is no guarantee in life that we won't miscarry again... As the pp had mentioned, miscarriages are very common--about 1 in every 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage for all age groups.

But if you decide to try to get pregnant again, I would highly recommend that you push your doctor to test you for blood clotting disorders as well as thyroid issues--both are common causes of miscarriages that can be treated. Many doctors won't test until after the 3rd miscarriage. That's bull. Tell them you're already a "high risk" patient (that's what they categorize all us old birds, simply because of our ages) and that you don't have the luxury of waiting.

Just so you know, my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 7-1/2 weeks (the baby had stopped growing at about 2 weeks prior). Then I had a chemical pregnancy. And my last miscarriage was at 17 weeks. I am now 45, taking a break from TTC, but will try again later this year. I've got to give it another shot--even knowing what the risks are.



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