intro, questions

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Registered: 11-27-2009
intro, questions
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Fri, 11-27-2009 - 7:08pm

Hi all,

My name is Jen & I'm new to this site (& any other site for that matter--so sorry if I mess up the abbreviations).

My DH and I've been trying to conceive for over a year--both on our own and w/ help. I just completed another unsuccessful cycle. We're definitely going to take next mo. off from the dr. & the endless rounds of appts & we'll just try on our own. We may try another round of IUI in Jan. but I feel so sad & disappointed at every failure that I want to quit (except that the idea of not trying makes me feel even worse).

I can't afford IVF but my health care coverage will cover IU. I'm just wondering if its worth it. Does it give me that much better of a chance?

If we just go back to trying on our own, is there anything else we can do to improve our chances (I already eat healthy, exercise and take vitamins)?

Any tips for staying positive while going through this?

I appreciate any support or advice you can give me.

Jen

Age-42, DH-41
Me: healthy but UI (except I'm 42), DH-no problems
Neither of us have children.
TTC 14 mo.
5 cycles clomid--3 w/ iu
2 cycles injectables w/ iu (forgot that abbreviation)

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Registered: 05-31-2004
Sat, 11-28-2009 - 3:31pm

Hi and welcome Jen. I truly hope your stay here will be short because you will be successful right away. :-) It does often take more time at our age, that is true, but don't get discouraged. You are already taking vitamins etc, so that is good. (Make sure you are taking 5mg of folic acid.) I recently added in inositol to help with egg quality, but check it out first, it might not be what your body needs.

Probably the biggest thing is just keeping positive and not obsessing over it all. I am not sure I have any tips in that regard, it is pretty much trial and error. Just focus on keeping your relationship healthy and not putting so much pressure on yourselves in regard to the whole TTC bit. We may have four children now, but infertility has been with me my entire life, so I know how difficult it can be when time keeps going on and no child in sight. Just try to be as creative as you can each month, and have fun along the way. Find ways to find humour in it all, without laughter it can all become much too serious and taxing on your entire life. I think it is good that you are taking a break right now. When we were doing injectibles years ago and were constantly at the doctor or lab, we often took a month off between each cycle as it was just too stressful on our relationship otherwise.

Hang in there, and don't be afraid to ask questions. Some of the ladies here have a wealth of knowledge, and a lot can be found in the info section. (sorry, can't think what it is called right now!) Best wishes to you on your journey, hopefully that BFP is on its way!

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Registered: 11-27-2009
Sat, 11-28-2009 - 4:53pm

Hi Michelle,

Thanks for your email.

I've just been taking a prenatal multivitamin that has 800 mg of folic acid. Should I take an additional supplement?

I googled inositol. It looks like its generally prescribed for women w/ PCOS although I did see it on a another site for ttc over 40 as a way to improve egg quality. Did you discuss it with her RE before using it?

Anyway, thanks again for the email. It made me feel better.

Jen

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Registered: 05-31-2004
Sun, 11-29-2009 - 3:14am

Hi Jen,

Yes, from all I have read and doctors I have talked to, they all agree that taking 5mg of folic acid is recommended for women our age. Confirm this with your doctor, but I would be surprised if they said anything different.

I have not talked with my doctor about the inositol, but I do have PCOS and so I am taking it for that and some of the side effects of PCOS that I would really like to get rid of. We recently moved, and so I don't have a doctor I completely trust just yet, but hopefully I will soon, as I just heard about some good ones. The ones I have seen, aside from my obstetrician, I have been less than thrilled with. So, until then, I read carefully, listen to my body, and try what I think may help me, particularly if there are several factors that fit for me. Hope that makes sense!

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


Loving Mom to three rambunctious 

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Registered: 06-26-2009
Mon, 11-30-2009 - 11:20am

Jen,


First off, Welcome to the board!

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Registered: 08-17-2007
Tue, 12-01-2009 - 10:25am

Welcome, Jen! You've come to the right place. Sorry your TTC road hasn't been easier. Like you, I'm TTC #1 and I'm almost 42. My insurance doesn't cover IVF either but after two years of trying (with one BFP followed by a miscarriage) we're ready to spend the big bucks.

Good luck, and KUP on how things are going.


Susan CB



TTC #1

Starting first (and with any luck, last) IVF cycle in early 2010


Susan CB

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Registered: 01-05-1999
Tue, 12-01-2009 - 1:10pm
Hi Jen. I can't assure you of much when it comes to success after struggle or IU... but I can tell you that it can happen... and it can happen without intervention at our age. I am 42 and had my tubes tied for 14 years. I had a reversal of one tube last December and was pregnant in February. I had a miscarriage and concieved 2 cycles later and am due this February. I turned 42 in August. I took folic acid and prenatals for several months before having the reversal. Then I took baby asprin consistently. I took DHEA for a few months but can't say if it helped or not as I had stopped taking it after my first BFP. Best of luck to you. It can definitely happen though.

Paula


What would you

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Paula = 43; Mike = 38; Tubal reversal 12/4/08, one tube reparied; Healthy baby girl born 2/16/10; PG again, EDD 3/18/11!