Introducing myself, and also concerned about unusual flu...

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Introducing myself, and also concerned about unusual flu...
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Sat, 03-10-2012 - 10:36pm

Hi,

I'm new to this board but not to the ivillage message boards (I was active on the old 20-something and old 30-something boards and a few others that no longer exist). My name is Sapna, I'm 41 (but thankfully, could pass for 29), and TTC for the first time since early-October 2011. As an adult, my periods have been regular for the most part but I did have a hormonal imbalance in late-2010/early-2011 right before my 40th birthday. I had excessive bleeding (very frequent periods, like every 2 or 3 weeks) in October-December 2010, and didn't get a period in January, February, and April 2011, and had to go on Provera from March to June 2011. After that, thankfully, my periods returned to a mostly 26-day cycle, thankfully, and until very recently have varied between 26 and 28 days (upto 30 days in my 20s and early-30s). I was actually having anovulatory periods during my Provera phase.

However, things are just bizarre this month. My LMP was Feb. 3, we did the baby dance on what I thought was Day 11 and 12 (I usually ovulate between day 9 and 12) but I haven't gotten my NMP which was due on Feb. 29 or March 1, according to websites I consult i.e. babyhopes.com and webmd.com. The pregnancy test gave me a BFN when I used it on March 5 and then March 8. I'm having PMS-type symptoms, sore boobs, itchy skin, bloating, mood swings, that comes and go. Was getting excessive mucus-y discharge, then yellow-ish discharge, then brown jelly-like discharge when I wipe, plus I have an unusually dry cough and a cold now and feel miserable. I'm only 41 and my mom didn't go through any final change until 48, and I know I took after her in that area i.e. menarche at 10-11... I really want a baby! Didn't always feel this way but have been having baby fever since 2009 (but we weren't on the same page until the end of 2010 and we wanted to wait and start trying in the fall of 2011 with the hope of giving the future baby a spring birthday...) It's also hard seeing so many parents out there who seem non-chalant about their little kids, chatting away on their cell phones and living as if they were still child-free, and seeing baby and kid pictures from many other friends who are mostly younger than I am... I'm happy for them but anxious for me. I'm wondering if the flu I have right now could be a symptom (had the flu last November,too, after doing the BD during that cycle, but then got my period a few days later than anticipated). This time, BFN and no period so far... Can't medicate either on the off-chance of news I want to hear but caved and took Sudafed anyway because maybe I'm having an anovulatory cycle again although I did feel twinges and temperature rises on my Day 9 and Day 11...

Haven't used any OPK or ovulation strips or measured my BBT; was just going according to my CM and PMS symptoms. I will probably have to go to my ob-gyn and hope more Provera or Clomid could be the answer. My husband and I can't and won't adopt, and can't and won't spend $ on expensive treatments. I have a f****g low-paying job, the only job that didn't fire me or wasn't strictly temp, and that's a whole other post. Been afraid to leave it since it's close to home and has lasted but having to rethink it because I hate it. Plus, I'm worried sick about my reproductive health. I'm overweight but I cut out caffeine, alcohol, take multivitamins

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Registered: 01-16-2012
Hi I just wanted to say hello and I hope all works out for you. I see approx. 30 have viewed your posting but I think ONE has responded? I have had the same experience here and I prob. wont be back... I do not understand why 30 people will read what you have to say and not respond..how sad. Bless you though and I wish the best for you! I'm off to find a more supportive board!
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Registered: 04-21-2010

Hi and welcome to the board. First off, let me say that I'm sorry for the late reply but I haven't been on the boards in a few days.

My Ovulation Chart <img      

  

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Registered: 04-21-2010

2012Waiting- I'm sorry you feel neglected here on our board. I have no answer as to why her post was viewed 30 times and not responded to but I do know that more than just the ladies that actively post here will read some of the posts. This board is slower than some but I have to say that we try to make everyone feel welcome.

As the leader of the board, I try my best to respond to each and every post as soon as I see it. I do, however, do this on a voluntary basis. I have a husband, 3 children, a job, a father that had a heart attack,

My Ovulation Chart <img      

  

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Hi Sapna, welcome to the board! It's hard when you don't have anyone to talk to about what you are going through. I agree with Vickie that you could be having an anovulatory cycle, I wonder if your cold threw things out of whack? I think that you've made a lot of changes for the better, we still have lots of members that are getting pregnant in their late 30s and 40s.

You've found a great group of ladies, I hope you'll give them a chance :)

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Hi 2012waiting, I'm sorry that your experiences here weren't what you are expecting. We do have members that like to read the posts, without actually joining the board. Sometimes if they can't relate to what a member is going through, they won't respond or they might just be having a bad day. I know it can be frustrating, but sometimes all it takes is a few members posting a lot to get others to feel safe enough to make that first post. I hope you'll give the boards another try!

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Registered: 06-26-2002
Thanks so much for your kind response and concern, 2012waiting! I'm so sorry you've had a negative experience with this board.

Sapna
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Thanks so much for your response, Vickie! Actually, I wanted to clarify that my anovulatory cycle phase was before I was placed on Provera. The doc had also wanted to rule out insulin resistance, so she had sent me for a glucose tolerance test, and thankfully, that turned out normal. I did think that Provera would have helped me ovulate again because I was getting the cervical discharge or CM, and feeling twinges and temperature rises. I wasn't sure where to get a basal body thermometer from, unless I could use our regular thermometer (but not sure how that works although I have heard about charting on websites like fertilityfriend.com). I will have to start using the ovulation strips my sister had given me and then buy an OPK (hoping it's not expensive). I was going by dates given to me on websites like babyhopes.com and webmd.com, based on my last cycle (LMP). That's probably not enough.

I have actually told my sister that we're TTC, just not my emotions about it, and not the way I've been feeling lately. I haven't told my mom that we've been trying since October, though. She does know that that is our intention, and she was only concerned about how big I would get, given that I'm already overweight. My mom and my sister were discouraging before, however, saying it's a lot of work (as if my husband and I didn't already know that -- we were both 40 when we made the decision to start trying). As for my friends, a few know and are happy for me, including the ones who are 35-39 and also TTC. It's just that I don't feel close enough to confide in them how I've been feeling lately. Ironically, I find it easiest to confide in one who is in her early-30s and is currently single and doesn't want kids (although she's starting to think that her outlook could change once she finds her forever man). I do in fact have some 40-something/soon-to-be-40 real life friends whom I went to high school with but they either have kids already, including teenagers or young adults or don't want kids, and a few are single by circumstance (divorced or never married but want to be married), and they're all simply FB friends, so I can't relate to them that way, and I didn't know most of them very well in school. Plus, most of them live in other countries (I did most of my schooling in India).

I think you could be right -- it may be another anovulatory cycle despite the way I felt on Day 9 and Day 11. I'm also starting to think that my current condition is due to me catching a colleague's sinus infection, and wish he had just stayed home if he wasn't feeling well! He has kids of his own and is around my same age, so it's not like he wouldn't know better! I find myself getting sick frequently from co-workers (I work at a school, and you'd think it would be the students, but no, it's the teachers!).

I'm happy to have received some responses, and will be back. I wish all of us good luck in our family adding/expanding endeavors.

Sapna

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Registered: 06-26-2002
Thanks, Melissa! I think you could be right. I got sick from a teacher I work with, so that could be messing with my current menstrual cycle/period timing except that I did the HPT and noticed my period being MIA as well before I developed the cough. My throat is actually worse now (can't swallow easily), and I'm trying to get an appointment with my doctor who specializes in pulmonology but is also probably the closest I have to an ENT specialist.

I did think I had started ovulating again after I got my first period on my own without Provera (July 2011) if not during the Provera-induced periods, judging from my CM and the side abdominal twinges I would feel (mostly on my left side). It's discouraging that I could be skipping ovulation again. I hope my doc will be able to help (ob-gyn).

As for friends and family, my sister does know that we're TTC right now but just don't want her to know about how I've been feeling, lately. I told my mom before we started TTC and she was (finally) okay with it but just concerned about how much more weight I would gain since I'm already overweight. (139 lbs, the last time I weighed myself, instead of 110-120 on a 5-ft, frame). The friends who do know of our plans are good people, but ironically, I find it easiest to talk to one about it who is single and doesn't currently want kids, than to those who are also TTC whom I see less frequently, and to those I hang out with the most, who are in their late-20s/early-30s, who are not at that stage yet. The girls I know from the old ivillage boards and see on other message boards now, are all in their late-20s/early-30s and while they know I'm TTC and have been supportive and helpful, I haven't told them what I told you all either since it was so much easier for them to conceive at least after they were put on Clomid in some cases, and I feel my "age" even more if I tell them of my struggles (many of them have babies/kids now, and some even have their second kids or are pregnant with their second babies). Again, I'm happy for everyone I know, who has kids but would like the same for myself. I'm so happy to hear that many of your members are having success with conceiving in their late-30s or in their 40s! I was also happy to see that I got some responses, and will definitely be back here :).

Sapna
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Registered: 04-21-2010

I know it gets frustrating waiting for answers. Maybe you felt your body gear up to O but for some reason you didn't actually release an egg on days 9-11. Could you have ovulated later?

My Ovulation Chart <img      

  

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Registered: 06-26-2002

Thank you, Vickie! You could be right.

I hope it all works out for you!

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