Introducing myself, and also concerned about unusual flu...

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Registered: 06-26-2002
Introducing myself, and also concerned about unusual flu...
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Sat, 03-10-2012 - 10:36pm

Hi,

I'm new to this board but not to the ivillage message boards (I was active on the old 20-something and old 30-something boards and a few others that no longer exist). My name is Sapna, I'm 41 (but thankfully, could pass for 29), and TTC for the first time since early-October 2011. As an adult, my periods have been regular for the most part but I did have a hormonal imbalance in late-2010/early-2011 right before my 40th birthday. I had excessive bleeding (very frequent periods, like every 2 or 3 weeks) in October-December 2010, and didn't get a period in January, February, and April 2011, and had to go on Provera from March to June 2011. After that, thankfully, my periods returned to a mostly 26-day cycle, thankfully, and until very recently have varied between 26 and 28 days (upto 30 days in my 20s and early-30s). I was actually having anovulatory periods during my Provera phase.

However, things are just bizarre this month. My LMP was Feb. 3, we did the baby dance on what I thought was Day 11 and 12 (I usually ovulate between day 9 and 12) but I haven't gotten my NMP which was due on Feb. 29 or March 1, according to websites I consult i.e. babyhopes.com and webmd.com. The pregnancy test gave me a BFN when I used it on March 5 and then March 8. I'm having PMS-type symptoms, sore boobs, itchy skin, bloating, mood swings, that comes and go. Was getting excessive mucus-y discharge, then yellow-ish discharge, then brown jelly-like discharge when I wipe, plus I have an unusually dry cough and a cold now and feel miserable. I'm only 41 and my mom didn't go through any final change until 48, and I know I took after her in that area i.e. menarche at 10-11... I really want a baby! Didn't always feel this way but have been having baby fever since 2009 (but we weren't on the same page until the end of 2010 and we wanted to wait and start trying in the fall of 2011 with the hope of giving the future baby a spring birthday...) It's also hard seeing so many parents out there who seem non-chalant about their little kids, chatting away on their cell phones and living as if they were still child-free, and seeing baby and kid pictures from many other friends who are mostly younger than I am... I'm happy for them but anxious for me. I'm wondering if the flu I have right now could be a symptom (had the flu last November,too, after doing the BD during that cycle, but then got my period a few days later than anticipated). This time, BFN and no period so far... Can't medicate either on the off-chance of news I want to hear but caved and took Sudafed anyway because maybe I'm having an anovulatory cycle again although I did feel twinges and temperature rises on my Day 9 and Day 11...

Haven't used any OPK or ovulation strips or measured my BBT; was just going according to my CM and PMS symptoms. I will probably have to go to my ob-gyn and hope more Provera or Clomid could be the answer. My husband and I can't and won't adopt, and can't and won't spend $ on expensive treatments. I have a f****g low-paying job, the only job that didn't fire me or wasn't strictly temp, and that's a whole other post. Been afraid to leave it since it's close to home and has lasted but having to rethink it because I hate it. Plus, I'm worried sick about my reproductive health. I'm overweight but I cut out caffeine, alcohol, take multivitamins

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Registered: 06-26-2002
Thanks so much, Pam! :) Good luck with TTC the third time around with your future husband!
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Registered: 06-26-2002

Hi, Bonalex! Thanks so much!

Sorry to hear about your health issues. Good luck with TTC and hope it all works out!

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Registered: 06-26-2002
Thanks so much, Michele! :)
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Registered: 03-19-2012
Hi Sapna, My name is Pam and it's a pleasure greeting you and talking with you. First of, I relate to your experiences, hun, lol!. I m 42 yrs old and wants to have another child. I have two adult children ages 21 and 22 yrs old. People think it's odd for me to want to start all over! IThey can say all they want, but once I am a mom again my child is going to reap all best rewards because he or she will have the best parents any kid could have. And just for the record if you need a girl friend/ and or 40 something year old buddy than I am here for you. I like hanging out with people my own age as well. I wish you the best of luck at getting pregnant. My Mr. Right has just came into my life but we won't think of getting pregnant until we become man and wife. When I had my first two children I was an unwed mother. This time I want it done the right and righteous way! Don't get me wrong my girls are no mistake, I love them! Take care and once again good luck!
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Registered: 07-06-2004
Sapna,
I am so sorry this has been so frustrating. I have felt a lot of support in this forum, even though I am not an avid poster. I have been TTC for years now. Until lately I was diagnosed with an insulin resistance. It was a shock, but it explained a lot of what I was going through in my TTC journey. I'd like to encourage you to start charting or using OPK. But Charting is much more accurate.
I am 41, and yesterday a good friend found out we are TTC, and her words were "You are brave!" It didn't sound like a compliment. You will find people that will voice their negative opinions. But at the end of the day, you know what's in your heart, and you make the best decision that work for your family.
Best wishes!

Me (42) - TTC naturally since 1997; DH (44); DD (10), DS ^i^ Stillborn at 24 weeks 4/2009, Angel babies ^i^ - 08/1997, 02/2010. **01/2012-Officially started adoption journey. Homestudy approved 11-1-12!!! Now on to the waiting game... YES!! More waiting! God teaching me to be patient...

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Registered: 02-12-2010

2012 I think you should give this board another shot! Vickie is the best moderator I have seen on these boards. She comes across completely sincere - I don't think other moderators accomplish this as well as she does and she has a lot of really great information. Even I have some good advice from time to time. My practice during the week when I'm working is to check in and read some of the posts and then on the weekends, when I have time I post. Most of the time I am reading the posts I am at work and don't have time to write a well thought out response and find it better for everyone if I post when I have more time available. Things are cyclical on this board as for all of us RL prevails over this board, as much as we all care for each other here and share our ups and downs, there are times when the flow of responses are slow, to take that personally, IMO, is a bad idea.

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Registered: 02-12-2010

I'm sorry everything is so frustrating for you right now sapna! We are here for you and will respond with encouragement. These ladies are very supportive! Baby dust to you and all my board mates.

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Registered: 06-26-2002

Thank you, Vickie! You could be right.

I hope it all works out for you!

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Registered: 04-21-2010

I know it gets frustrating waiting for answers. Maybe you felt your body gear up to O but for some reason you didn't actually release an egg on days 9-11. Could you have ovulated later?

My Ovulation Chart <img      

  

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Registered: 06-26-2002
Thanks, Melissa! I think you could be right. I got sick from a teacher I work with, so that could be messing with my current menstrual cycle/period timing except that I did the HPT and noticed my period being MIA as well before I developed the cough. My throat is actually worse now (can't swallow easily), and I'm trying to get an appointment with my doctor who specializes in pulmonology but is also probably the closest I have to an ENT specialist.

I did think I had started ovulating again after I got my first period on my own without Provera (July 2011) if not during the Provera-induced periods, judging from my CM and the side abdominal twinges I would feel (mostly on my left side). It's discouraging that I could be skipping ovulation again. I hope my doc will be able to help (ob-gyn).

As for friends and family, my sister does know that we're TTC right now but just don't want her to know about how I've been feeling, lately. I told my mom before we started TTC and she was (finally) okay with it but just concerned about how much more weight I would gain since I'm already overweight. (139 lbs, the last time I weighed myself, instead of 110-120 on a 5-ft, frame). The friends who do know of our plans are good people, but ironically, I find it easiest to talk to one about it who is single and doesn't currently want kids, than to those who are also TTC whom I see less frequently, and to those I hang out with the most, who are in their late-20s/early-30s, who are not at that stage yet. The girls I know from the old ivillage boards and see on other message boards now, are all in their late-20s/early-30s and while they know I'm TTC and have been supportive and helpful, I haven't told them what I told you all either since it was so much easier for them to conceive at least after they were put on Clomid in some cases, and I feel my "age" even more if I tell them of my struggles (many of them have babies/kids now, and some even have their second kids or are pregnant with their second babies). Again, I'm happy for everyone I know, who has kids but would like the same for myself. I'm so happy to hear that many of your members are having success with conceiving in their late-30s or in their 40s! I was also happy to see that I got some responses, and will definitely be back here :).

Sapna

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