Introducing myself and hope I can join

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Registered: 06-26-2003
Introducing myself and hope I can join
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Sat, 01-24-2009 - 1:54pm

Hi ladies-

I have been lurking here for a few months. I just turned 37 in december and have 2 gorgeous children ages 5 10/12ths (:) and one who just turned 4 last week. My husband and i always talked about having 3. However, my husband battled a severe bout of depression for 1 1/2 years. I am happy to say he now has a job he loves and is taking the appropriate meds for him to be him again. He is ready to try for #3.

Anyway we just started trying this month and i am very paranoid about a few things...1)-my company has had many layoffs, and quite frankly...i would like a new career. Dont get me wrong, I am extremely thankful to have a job, but have been looking for few months. I have worked at this company pretty much since getting out of college at 21 .I just feel that there has never been a "really good" time for me to have kids. However, I dont know when i will find a new job so i dont feel like i can keep "waiting" just because the economy isnt really rocking right now.

#2-Perhaps this would sound strange to some but i get increasingly concerned that i will have a childhood like my own. My parents were very loving, but beginning around age 10 financial woes were severe. I helped pay for groceries with my pet sitting and baby sitting money as an 11, 12, 13, etc yr old. Please dont think i am whining as i know many people have had much greater struggles.I am not concerned with being a gazillionaire but i guess i am concerned about security. Whatever that is! I am extremely grateful 2 have 2 wonderful children and that my husband is happy again, but I am nervous. Plain and simple:) My mind just keeps going thru what ifs? This is all compounded by the fact that i am generally not a worrier-I am actually extremely easy going.

Can someone just make me feel a smidge better by saying they dont always feel financially secure and have doubts too? Please???

I wish you all the best in becoming mommies soon!

sashadog

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Sat, 01-24-2009 - 6:58pm

:) I can ease your feelings of being an island on that subject. I have a college degree and make a lot of money per year but I still live paycheck to paycheck.

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Paula = 43; Mike = 38; Tubal reversal 12/4/08, one tube reparied; Healthy baby girl born 2/16/10; PG again, EDD 3/18/11!


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Registered: 05-28-2008
Sun, 01-25-2009 - 12:36pm

I'm in that same boat - the paycheck to paycheck - but we're making plans to start a 2nd business and I agree, you CAN always find a way...



 BabyFruit Ticker

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Registered: 10-21-2008
Sun, 01-25-2009 - 6:17pm

Oh boy can I ever relate to you and all the posters.

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Registered: 05-28-2008
Sun, 01-25-2009 - 7:41pm
Hey Melissa, I'm not sure your field, but have you considered looking for contract work?



 BabyFruit Ticker

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Registered: 10-21-2008
Sun, 01-25-2009 - 7:52pm

I am an Information Architect. Basically a data geek with a few degrees. My background is pretty much in demand especially as a contractor.

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Registered: 09-13-2007
Mon, 01-26-2009 - 8:48am

Hi Sashadog and welcome to the board!!

 


 


Susan V

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Tue, 01-27-2009 - 8:12am

Hi and welcome,

I don't always feel financially secure. I don't know many people who do (even some friends whom I would consider fairly wealthy). At lot of it is just perception, planning well for what you do have, etc.

One thing I tell myself when I wonder if I'll have enough money for this journey is that I can try to make more money for years to come (for the most part). I can also move someplace with a lower cost of living... or whatever. I don't have very much more time to have another baby.

Hope that helps,

Deb



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