Introducing myself. TTC #1

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Registered: 01-14-2009
Introducing myself. TTC #1
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 10:39pm

Hello everyone,

I turned 40 in Aug and my DH and I are TTC #1. I got a BFP in Sep but it ended in a M/C. We have not been successful since then. I am totally new with message boards and feel a little lost and was looking for some advice, recommendations, in general. . . .HELP! We have been trying for about 16 months; however, my DH was deployed/or gone for five of those months as he serves in the Navy. Any advice would be much appreciated. Discouraged and overwhelmed.

Thank you and best of wishes to everyone.


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Registered: 05-07-2008
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 9:47am

Hi Wendy,

It's nice to see you here. I'm sorry to hear of your recent m/c. I can't offer a lot of advice but I'm happy to be here for moral support. I, too, am 40, recently married and TTC#1. I had a m/c in May and another in September and nothing since.

Have you had any of the standard tests done yet, such as CD3 and CD21 hormone levels? If not, that's perhaps a place to begin so you know a bit about what's going on with your body throughout your cycle.

If your DH was gone for such a large part of your 16 months of trying, that may be the only reason for your difficulty so far. Maybe everything is perfectly normal and you just need a little more time. I know at our age, though, it's awfully hard to wait, and the disappointment month after month is a nightmare.

In any case, I think you'll find the ladies here are really amazing, both for support and valuable information. I know that it helps me a lot to be able to browse and post here and I've learned a great deal from everyone here.

Wishing you a BFP very soon!


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Registered: 02-15-2007
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 9:58am

Hello & Welcome doublev1968 !

I'm so sorry about your M/C ...You've come to the right place. As I always say the ladies here are so supportive and informative.

It must be difficult

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Thu, 01-15-2009 - 10:40am



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Thu, 01-15-2009 - 3:16pm