its over for me

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Registered: 07-11-2008
its over for me
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Wed, 08-12-2009 - 10:45am

Well I never knew it worked this way. The FSH shoots up with no warning, and nor more baby. The clinic told me that my FSH, now being at 18, means I will NEVER be successful with IVF, nor will I have a child with my own eggs, not now, and most likely, not ever. I never knew the FSH was the end of the road. Six months ago it was a 6.9, now it is an 18.

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Registered: 04-07-2009
In reply to: ocean2008
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 1:45pm

Ocean, I am so sorry to hear this news, but, I don't really buy what they are telling you. If it's possible, you might want to get a second opinion -- especially if you are just 40. The TCM (Chinese med) practitioners would totally disagree and they have all kinds of things they can do to lower FSH. I sure hope you can get some support and better information. I know there are women here who had a very high FSH and got it lowered and did go on to get PG.


Hugs and PPTs to you.


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Registered: 02-15-2007
In reply to: ocean2008
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 1:54pm

Gosh I'm so sorry again. I wish I could say something to make it all better. I'm new to Re so I'm still learning....


Have you've heard of this site?:


www.natural-fertility-info.com


I've done some research and I really like this site compared to others. What I like is that the lady replies to you personally with any questions you may have. I tried the fertility cleanse and really liked it and felt a difference at the next cycle. No AF cramps etc... I'm not affiliated with this site at all or selling their products, just when I find something I like I share it.

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Registered: 05-28-2008
In reply to: ocean2008
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 1:55pm

If you search google, there are entire networks of women with high fsh who have gone on to get pregnant.



 BabyFruit Ticker

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Registered: 03-09-2005
In reply to: ocean2008
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 2:11pm

Hi!


Well, first of all let me tell you to RUN do not walk from that doctors office!

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In reply to: ocean2008
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 3:56pm
I totally agree with the others, you need to get to another doctor. Like I said in my other post, my doctor did not even want to check my FSH, didn't really believe that much in it in the first place. Now maybe that is because we are not going to do IVF, maybe he would have checked it then but felt it didn't matter since we weren't going that route, I don't know. Either way, anything that I know about FSH tells me that you need to get a second opinion from an AMA friendly doctor. Mine is only semi supportive of our desire for another, but he did not say anything like that about the FSH when I asked him, he backed up what the others are saying that one test can be way off because it fluctuates a lot month by month during this time of life. If you really want a biological child of your own, then do not give up just yet, I really do not think the door is shut, but you will need to find someone to help you open it a little wider again. (((((Hugs)))))

Michelle


Loving Mom to three

Michelle


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Registered: 08-12-2009
In reply to: ocean2008
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 5:55pm
Read "Inconceivable" by Julia Indochiva immediately! Her FSH was too high at age 42 and she was able to reverse it through diet, exercise, yoga, holistic philosophies. I am ttc at age 40 and it was great inspiration to me how much power we do have over the situation....still trying... Best of luck to you and keep the faith.
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Registered: 04-02-2005
In reply to: ocean2008
Wed, 08-12-2009 - 5:56pm

Wow what devastating and unnecessary news to hear. First...if 6 months ago you had a decent FSH # and now it's very high, a GOOD AMA doc would want to investigate further. I suspect you are at a clinic that cares only about their success rating which is monitored by the govt by the way. They have to report their success and over 40's do tend to bring their #'s down. So some clinics are not AMA friendly. but MANY are. You need a new doc. stat.


Sorry you had to deal w/ something so sucky, but you are your own advocate so get out there and get all of the info before you give up.

Big hugs to you.


jeanne

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Registered: 07-11-2008
In reply to: ocean2008
Thu, 08-13-2009 - 1:24pm
THANK YOU to all who supported me through this process and provided such encouraging information and offers of hope. HUGS and god bless to all of you. I don't know what I would do without this place. I spent the past 2 days crying my heart out and I went to my mother for comfort. She took care of me, physically and emotionally, and with the sound advice of my mother and stepfather, I decided to get a second opinion from a very good RE in NYC. I have requested a copy of my medical records and they are being transferred to me within the next few days. Once I receive a copy of my records with my most recent lab work, I plan to fax it ASAP to the RE's office in NYC for a second opinion. At first it will be a telephone consult since I live in a different state, and if the doctor feels there is still hope despite the FSH level, I will fly to NY for a live appointment. I have spoken with the RE's secretary in NYC and she gave me a dose of hope and inspiration by telling me that many women pass through their clinic with high FSH and go on to IVF anyway. She also told me that most likely, the doctor will want to repeat the day 3 labs and do a day three ultrasound again. If this is the case, I will be on the next plane to NYC. It bothers me enormously that the Yale educated doctor at the clinic here where I live, who has a fantastic reputation, did not even suggest we investigate further why my FSH jumped so quickly, or even suggest we try to repeat the blood test next month. All he did was cancel me out of the IVF cycle and suggest I use donor eggs or consider adoption. He said that even if the FSH comes down next month, they still have to use the highest number, because the highest number is always accurate, especially when it coordinates with the estrogen levels, which mine apparently did. In other words, when one number is high, the other number is low, and vice versa. So, basically, they are saying there is no doubt that my eggs have declined in quality and quanitity based on my FSH level of 18, and even a lower number at a future testing does not cancel out the higher number. I did my own reasearch and this appears to be validated- once the FSH shoots up, it may come down again and continue to fluctuate, by a woman's FSH is only as good as the highest number. Has anyone heard something to the contrary? I would love to believe this is NOT true. I have 11 follicles total- 6 on one side, and 5 on the other. Does anyone know if this is a good number or a poor number? My RE told me that despite the number of follicles I have, the FSH still indicates poor egg quality and very low chance of the egg developing into a baby. Further, he told me that now with an FSH of 18, my chance of a healthy pregnancy through IVF is no greater than my statistical chance of getting pregnant on my own- somewhere around 5% per cycle, so why
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In reply to: ocean2008
Thu, 08-13-2009 - 1:55pm
I was told that by 4 different doctor's.
 


 


Susan V

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Registered: 07-11-2008
In reply to: ocean2008
Thu, 08-13-2009 - 2:22pm

WOW. Not very encouraging. So my eggs are defintely failing. And my FSH might even be higher than 18! I could be in menopause! No wonder I have been feeling hot and waking during the night.

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