Just turned 40 and want a baby!! Any success stories?

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Just turned 40 and want a baby!! Any success stories?
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Mon, 01-16-2012 - 4:15pm

Hello. I just turned 40 and am having a very difficult time getting pregnant. The first fertility specialist told me that I should get an egg doner because I am not a candidate for In-vetro according to the blood test that were taken, it showed premature egg failure. He also said that if I went somewhere else to try in-vetro, they would be taking my money because it won't work. Well, after I received that horrible news, I seeked advice from a gynocologist that I trust. I faxed over my blood test results to him. He said that he didn't see any indication of that diagnosis! Then he gave me a name of another specialist that I am currently seeing. (who can I trust?)

This new specialist does not agree with the diagnosis that the other specialist made but said "you're 40 years old". Your eggs are 40. Nothing premature. He feels we should take the most aggressive approach and try in-vetro.

I just don't know who to trust anymore. These doctor's that play with your life!

I have always wanted children. I don't have any. My first husband was a complete butthole and lied to me for many years about wanting children

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I certainly am on the same boat as it being a difficult road to getting pregnant. But I do want to encourage you, as long as you have a period, there's always a chance of getting pregnant. Find a doctor who you feel comfortable with, and who is willing to fight along your side. I don't feel 40 is that old, I have friends having kids in their late 40's. I don't say that lightly, it's just to let you know it is possible.
I wish you the best of luck!

Me (42) - TTC naturally since 1997; DH (44); DD (10), DS ^i^ Stillborn at 24 weeks 4/2009, Angel babies ^i^ - 08/1997, 02/2010. **01/2012-Officially started adoption journey. Homestudy approved 11-1-12!!! Now on to the waiting game... YES!! More waiting! God teaching me to be patient...

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Thank you for answering bonalex! Well, the good news is that I have an appointment on 1/24 to talk to my RE about my options. When he called me a couple of days ago, he said we would speak when I see him for the appointment. I've been trying to have a child for many years now and it's just so disappointing that I'm having these issues. It's sad but I don't feel complete without a having my own child. Unfortunately, I blame myslef for waiting so long and staying too long with my ex. But thanks again for

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Registered: 09-21-2009
Welcome to the board. 40 is not too old to have children. It sounds like your first RE was a money grubbing jerk. There are REs out there who go straight to donor eggs because one it makes them more money and two increases there sucsess rate. That does not mean you can't get pregnant on your own. My RE told me that after 40, you have a 10-15% chance of getting pregnant every month if you are ovulating and your husband (DH) has a good sperm count. IUI and IVF (your own eggs or donor) increases that to 15-20%. Not much of an increase for all that out of pocket money since most insurance does not cover fertility treatments. I am assuming that your old RE did a CD3 FSH, AMH, prolactin and estrodial. If you post those values that can give us some idea where you are at. Other tests he should have done are a dpo 7 progesterone, to make sure you are ovulating and a HSG to make sure your tubes are open. He should have also done a sperm analysis on your DH make sure he does not have a problem. If DHs sperm comes back fine and your tubes are open and you are ovulating, then the most important thing to do is have well timed intercourse. You can do that with BBT and OPKs. BDing on CD14 may not do it as you may be ovulating earlier or later and missing the egg. TTC after 40 can be a challenge but that does not mean that you can not get pregnant. Find an RE you like and do what you can. Nobody can give you a guarenty, but without more info, nobody can tell you that you can't get pregnant on your own. Good luck. Mel
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Hi emorysmommy2009!

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I just want to jump in and welcome you to the board.

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Registered: 09-21-2009
So this is what I am getting from your test results. Your estradiol is a little high which indicates poor stimulization of your overlies. Your FSH is in diminished reserves range and your LH is just a little high. So basically you have diminish ovarian reserves which you already knew because you are over 40. The high estradiol with the high FSH means that you may not respond to the stimulization needed to do IVF so you are a poor canidate. This does not mean that you can not get pregnant. If you are ovulating.....you can get pregnant no matter what your hormone numbers are. Did any of your Drs do a cd21 progesterone to see if you were ovulating ? If you go to fertility friends.com under forum, trying to conceive, TTC in our 40s you will find stories of women who have conceived naturally with high FSH. there are also things you can do to improve your fertility. Wheatgrass has been known to lower FSH level. Yoga and accupuncture can help improve blood flow to your overlies and increase egg quality. There are many suppliments out there that can help like royal jelly. Do not give up. Hope can be a powerful tool. Mel
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Hey there!!

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Ladies, I cannot thank you enough for your support. Emorysmommy, you are correct about my diagnosis. My Dr. Did not give me a cd21 test. I have used the ovulating sticks and test at home and have been ovulating. My concern is that if I am a poor candidate for in-vetro, does that mean that it will not work? I am afraid to waste money. I really want to try with my own eggs. I do get my period once a month.
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Hello and sorry to hear about the news and yeah the docs..wow. I personally have yet to conceive. I am 44 and we have only tried one month. Looking fwd to this month. I have not had any testing but when I went to a prepregnancy consult with my Dr. He did not act negative to me..just stated that at my age I do need to "get" there first..give it some time..then poss getg more aggressive and do some testing (i think my estrogen and his sperm count..not sure) We will see if it happens naturally. I am not going to pursue it as far as invitro or anything but again I have 4 other children. I do sympathize with you..and wish you the best!!
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Thanks! I'm still hopeful and not giving up. Good luck trying to conceive and keep me posted.

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