Miscarriage :(

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Registered: 08-22-2012
Miscarriage :(
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Sun, 01-13-2013 - 7:17am

I started bleeding yesterday out of nowhere and ...just got a bit heavier.  

Looks like my second pregnancy has gone south at 4 and 1/2 weeks.  Never even got to the dr's yet.  Looks like I can get pregnant, but why can I not carry???  8 weeks and now 4 and 1/2.  WHY???

And of course, I still feel pregnant.  Even though I am bleeding.  I don;t even know what to do.  At 4 and 1/2 weeks I hadnt even called the dr yet.  Just found out myself.  And the kicker?  I am still getting bills from last miscarriage.  Just funny that I still havent paid off the last one.  At least this one is a freebee.  Another thing?  I am eerily calm this time.  I cried when the bleeding started of course, and weeped, and had my moments, but why am I so calm right now?  Is it because its early?  Am I numb?  Am I going to flip out soon, or what is wrong with me?????

Nina, mc at 8 weeks, October 29, 2012, mc at 4.5 weeks on January 12,  staying positive and third times's a charm???

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Tue, 01-15-2013 - 10:29pm

Hi Nina,  Really hope you feel better soon and I so hope the third times the charm! Sending my best wishes.

Ava

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Tue, 01-15-2013 - 1:19pm

Nina,

I am so sorry!  I have another board I go to and there are women on there that had several miscarriages, and then went on to have a healthy baby in the end.  I will pray that this will happen for you as well. 

~~Veronica

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Tue, 01-15-2013 - 11:21am

Hi Nina, did your doctor want to run any tests or did they just say to keep trying?  I had a friend who lost multiple babies between 4-10 weeks and she had an immune problem where the woman's body saw the baby as a threat and sent antigens (I think) to protect the woman's body.  My friend started taking baby aspirin and then did daily shots to prevent her body from miscarrying.  She now has two healthy kiddosSmile

More hugs!

Krista

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Tue, 01-15-2013 - 10:32am

Thanks to all.  I just cannot believe this happened to me AGAIN.

is this what the rest of my productive life is going to be like?  How does lightening strike twice????

Whatever,  I just need to move on again.  Md says I dont have to wait this time.  Bascially I am 3 days late for my period...or on time if I want to pretend I have a 28 day cycle.  I knew so early on day 21 which was kinda cruel.    Physically I still feel pregnant which is really cruel.  My belly was growing already -= so I still have a puff and my breasts are still bigger too.  It really happened fast.  Md says being a very smaller person, I notice the p[hysical changes really quick.  And also...My body is quick to go to pregnancy mode which I guess is a good thing? Who knows.  But 2 pregnancies in three months I am told by MD means that I have no problem getting pregnant.  I just need to work on STAYIng pregnant, I guess.  

Thank you so much for listening.  

Nina, mc at 8 weeks, October 29, 2012, mc at 4.5 weeks on January 12,  staying positive and third times's a charm???

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Mon, 01-14-2013 - 6:33pm

Oh Nina!  I am so so sorry!  I hope you heal quickly both emotionally and physically.  I'm sending lots of hugs!

Krista

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Mon, 01-14-2013 - 1:35pm
Oh Nina, I'm so very sorry :( Sending you lots of (((HUGS)))

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Mon, 01-14-2013 - 1:09pm

aw, Nina, I am so sorry!!  Yes, I freaked out, at my 1st loss, but unfortunately the 2nd is a bit easier.  Frown I just think, when one 1st gets pg? You don't think about m/c much, yes, you think it's a 'possibility', but it won't happen to you! And if it does? You won't get as upset as you 'think'.....but it just numbs you.  So if/when you get another bfp? You are still a bit numb, from your m/c, that you are fearful it will happen again & if it does? it's not such a shock, like the 1st one. (that's the way it happened for me).....I wish your heart/body a speddy healing, so you can 'jump back on the horse'. <3

Kiki (hit my magic age of 45 and no longer TTC),but mom to a beautiful teen DD & 2 angels in heaven & married to my best friend

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Mon, 01-14-2013 - 5:07am

Nina sending hugs across the ocean to you. Im sorry.

Ava

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Sun, 01-13-2013 - 11:55pm

I am so sorry Nina!!!! I hope you are still planning on going to the Dr. I have no words of wisdom, just sending gentle hugs your way. Allow yourself time to heal and grieve... (((HUGS)))Cry

Me (42) - TTC naturally since 1997; DH (44); DD (10), DS ^i^ Stillborn at 24 weeks 4/2009, Angel babies ^i^ - 08/1997, 02/2010. **01/2012-Officially started adoption journey. Homestudy approved 11-1-12!!! Now on to the waiting game... YES!! More waiting! God teaching me to be patient...